The Five-Year Marriage®: Will My Partner Always Agree With Me?

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The Five-Year Marriage® Offers Unique Marriage Advice For Engaged Couples 

Even engaged couples who are certain they want to be together may not be so certain about the traditional approach to marriage. After all, forever is a long time, especially if you’re engaged at a young age. Can you really see yourself feeling and thinking the same ways in a decade? How about two or three decades, or even more? Engaged couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage should read The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmI’m Annmarie Kelly, author of The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm and engaged couples, newly married couples, as well as single women and men interested in a new approach to marriage will find life-changing marriage advice in my book. 

Looking For Your Five-Year Partner: Should A Potential Partner Always Agree With You? 

When you’re searching for a partner for your Five-Year Marriage®, even though it isn’t a “forever” commitment, you want to be sure that you and your partner are compatible. After all, although the commitment isn’t forever, The Five-Year Marriage® still requires both partners to work together. Does that mean your partner should always agree with you? Of course not. After all, there’s likely no two people on the planet who agree all the time on everything. Additionally, sometimes people find themselves attracted to someone who is quite different from them. 

Engaged Couples Should Look For Chemistry And Support From One Another 

What’s more important than agreeing with your partner on every little thing is for the two of you to have emotional chemistry and to support one another. Do your values align? Do your differences complement each other? Can you turn to your partner when things aren’t going well, knowing that will have their support? These are some of the things that are crucial to look for in a potential five-year partner. Couples, or single people interesting in looking for their five-year partner, can learn more about what to look for in a partner in The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to singles, engaged, and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage® can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage® or contact me today

The Five-Year Marriage®, Your Partner, And Chemistry

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers Couples Fresh Marriage Advice 

The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm offers couples who are considering a more serious commitment an alternative to traditional marriage. The Five-Year Marriage can shift your perspective about marriage, help you think beyond the wedding day, and consider the importance of finding a compatible partner. I’m Annmarie Kelly, author of The Five-Year Marriage. My husband and I have built a life together for 30+ years, taking each of our marriages only five years at a time. Now, you can too. 

The Importance Of Chemistry In A Relationship 

All couples have heard before that in order to have a successful relationship there has to be some level of chemistry between both partners. What exactly is chemistry, through? Why is it important to a long-term relationship? 

Most commonly, couples think of two kinds of chemistry that come with relationships. there’s romantic chemistry and sexual chemistry. Romantic chemistry is what leads to the “butterflies in the stomach” feeling that many find so thrilling at the beginning of a relationship. Sexual chemistry, of course, is what leads couples to feel that draw of magnetism and “heat” for one another. While both of these forms of chemistry are important in a relationship, neither are the attraction, or chemistry, that is most important. After all, both of these feelings can fade with time. You simply can’t build a lasting relationship on something so temporary. 

Find A Partner You Have Emotional Chemistry With 

Emotional chemistry is a powerful feeling. It’s a sensation that is hard to put in definite terms. When you have good emotional chemistry with someone, you “just click.” You feel like you’re on the same wavelength. This attraction and connection is essential for a Five-Year Partner. Learn more about finding emotional chemistry in The Five-Year Marriage. 

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage® or contact me today

The Five-Year Marriage®: Finding The Right Partner

The Five-Year Marriage® Gives Engaged Couples Advice On How To Plan For Marriage 

If you’re making a long-term commitment to your partner, shouldn’t planning the marriage be more important than planning the wedding day? I’m Annmarie Kelly, and I encourage all couples considering marriage to read The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmThe Five-Year Marriage helps couples learn how to plan for marriage together.  

How Can You Plan For Marriage? 

Although traditional marriage requires a commitment of “til death do us part,” we all know that that promise is no guarantee of success in marriage. After all, about half of marriages in the US end in divorce. The Five-Year Marriage isn’t guaranteed to make your marriage a sure thing, either. In fact, the very premise depends on couples being willing to take the chance that after five years their commitment to one another might be over. What The Five-Year Marriage® can do for you is encourage couples to prioritize their commitment and really think ahead in their marriage. 

It Starts With Finding The Right Partner 

Any successful partnership depends first on finding the right partner. When you want to walk the path of The Five-Year Marriage, you have to ask yourself – what kind of person would want a Five-Year Marriage? Or, rather, what kind of person wouldn’t want a Five-Year Marriage? By starting with that question, couples will be able to figure out if they are a good match for each other in a Five-Year Marriage. 

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact me today

The Five-Year Marriage®: Planning Beyond The Wedding Day

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Looking For Relationship Advice Before Marriage? 

It is undeniable that the expectation to marry influences many couples to go through with a life-long commitment without putting real thought and consideration into what lies beyond the wedding day. The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm encourages couples to think beyond wedding planning to marriage planning. My name is Annmarie Kelly, and in The Five-Year Marriage I offer young couples the best relationship advice I know. 

Wedding Planning Vs. Marriage Planning 

Intense and extremely thought-out wedding planning is an aspect of marriage culture that couples are taught to expect. Whether you hire a professional or try to take on the wedding planning yourself, there are experts, advice, and self-help tips aplenty to be found for how to successfully plan a wedding. 

Why do we put so much effort into planning an event that will only last a day? Why don’t we put that same effort, if not more, into planning for the marriage that is meant to last “’til death do us part”? Partially, perhaps, it is because there are no “marriage planners” in the way that there are “wedding planners”. 

The Five-Year Marriage® Can Help You Become Your Marriage Planner 

The Five-Year Marriage encourages couples to think outside of the box. This plan advises couples to consider more than one day – it asks them to seriously consider what they expect the next five years together to look like, and if both parties are ready to do the work to hold true to their agreed-upon marriage plan. 

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact me today

Should A Marriage Be A ‘Forever’ Agreement?

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Are You Really Ready For ‘Forever’? Marriage Advice For Engaged Couples 

Engaged couples, if the ‘forever’ aspect of marriage makes you feel uneasy, you aren’t alone. Forever is a long time – longer than any one person can truly comprehend. What if you could get married without ‘forever’ hanging over your head? My name is Annmarie Kelly, and I’d like to introduce you to the idea of The Five-Year Marriage®. Through The Five-Year Marriage®, I’ve been with my husband for 30+ years, each time agreeing to be married for 5 years. You can learn more about this type of marriage in The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm. 

Why Is Marriage Supposed To Be Forever? 

Traditionally, marriage is said to last “‘til death do you part.” Why? 

Well, historically speaking, the “til death” period wasn’t all that long. For example, in the early 1900s men got married around the age of 25. Life expectancy for men was around 46 years of age. So, a marriage would last around 20 years.  

Today, the “til death” period is much, much longer. Life expectancy has changed drastically, and a couple marrying in their 20s could easily expect to live until their 80s or later! That’s 60 years total together. Nothing stays the same over the course of sixty years – not people, and not the world they live in. 

“Forever” Marriage Encourages Couples To Take Their Relationship For Granted 

Because marriages as “supposed” to last forever, couples rarely actually plan for how to make a marriage work. Married couples often assume it’ll just happen. They love each other and it should just work out because of that love, right? 

Unfortunately, relationships don’t work that way. Relationships take work, communication, and a willingness by both parties to stick to their plans together. That is what The Five-Year Marriage® encourages couples to work for. In your five-year marriage, you and your partner decide together what you expect out of your five-year commitment. You can’t take for granted that you’ll stay together forever because your contact with each other lasts only 5 years. It forces both parties to put the work necessary into making the relationship thrive. If you’re ready to learn how to do that, read The Five-Year Marriage with your partner. 

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage® can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact me today

Why Do People Get Married?

The Five-Year Marriage Gives Couples A Fresh Perspective On Marriage 

Marriage isn’t something that should be taken for granted, and yet, all too often couples get wrapped up in planning for a wedding without planning for the marriage to follow. If you want to invest time and energy into making sure you have a successful marriage and not just a successful wedding day, consider The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmMy name is Annemarie KellyThe Five-Year Marriage began as a plan between my husband and me when he proposed to me and I wasn’t comfortable with the idea of a ‘forever’ marriage. 30+ years later, we’re still taking our marriage together five years at a time – and you can do the same. 

Why Do People Get Married? 

Historically, marriage was a necessity for many. It was a way to ensure one’s lineage. For women, it was an acceptable path to financial security. Today, marriage isn’t a necessity in the ways it once was. If it’s not necessary to get married, though, why do people want to get married? 

There are many reasons why one could want to get married, including finances and/or children. For some, marriage is about wanting to be wanted or a desire for intimacy. For others, marriage is a mark of maturity or a sign of their personal success. Those reasons alone, however, are not enough to ensure that a marriage can last. 

What Makes For A Lasting Marriage? 

The Five-Year Marriage isn’t about making a short commitment and then parting ways after. Rather, The Five-Year Marriage is an approach to marriage that doesn’t take your union as a couple for granted. It’s a plan that encourages married couples to renew their commitments, accommodate and acknowledge change, and make decisions that are based on who you are now rather than who you were in the past. The Five-Year Marriage allows both partners in a married couple room for growth – and that is one of the things that can make a marriage last. Learn more about how to make a marriage last in The Five-Year Marriage

The Five-Year Marriage Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact me today

Is There An Alternative To ‘Til Death Marriage?

Are You Seeking Marriage Advice As A Newlywed? 

If you’re a newlywed seeking marriage advice or even someone who is considering marriage with your partner, pick up The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm by Annmarie KellyThe Five-Year Marriage offers the best marriage advice for newlyweds and couples who are wary about the ‘til death aspect of traditional marriage. Through this plan, you and your partner take equal control over the direction of your marriage while allowing room for growth and change. 

Do You Fear Feeling Stuck In A Marriage? 

If you’re wary of the idea of marriage, you’re far from alone. After all, about 50% of marriages end in divorce. It is intimating to make such a long-term commitment while worrying that it might now work out. Additionally, throughout history women haven’t had much choice in marriage – entering or exiting. For years, if a woman wanted to have financial security, marriage was a must. Today, women are far more capable of being independent. Marriage can feel like you’re being forced to give up that independence, but it doesn’t have to be that way. 

The Five-Year Marriage Makes Both Partners Equally Responsible And Accountable 

What if you didn’t have to promise to be together ‘til death? What if you could approach your marriage in five-year increments and reorganize, rethink, and reset your relationship after those five years are up? With The Five-Year Marriage, you can. 

The Five-Year Marriage plan accounts for the changes that will inevitably occur over your years together as a married couple. At the end of five years, you can rethink how you can continue to be in a relationship that is mutually beneficial for both of you. This plan emphasizes the responsibilities and accountability of each partner in the marriage, and in turn allows both partners to feel safe, secure, and loved. Learn more today about The Five-Year Marriage’s marriage advice can help you as a married couple. 

Annmarie Kelly’s The Five-Year Marriage Offers The Best Marriage Advice 

Annmarie Kelly is a successful author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist. She has made a career out of empowering and helping out women. Now, she offers much-needed advice to married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact Annmarie Kelly

The Fix for the Biggest Marriage Problems

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Getting married soon? Or are you a newlywed? This is the kind of relationship advice millions of divorced or married-but-unhappy women and men wish they had gotten sooner, when they were single.

If you’re in a committed relationship, and marriage is on the horizon (or you got married in the last couple of years), this is a heads-up. A recent article in Brides Magazine got my attention. The article lists the 6 biggest problems in marriage:

  • Disinterest,
  • spending habits,
  • jealousy,
  • going in different directions,
  • intimacy, and
  • boredom.

From my experience, I can agree – it’s a good list.

Are you experiencing them yet? If you haven’t yet, you will! It’s inevitable…but not hopeless, if…before you that walk down the aisle, you take some time together to think things out and make some agreements. What about? Read on…

Are these the same relationship problem?

Of the six problems listed, three of them – disinterest, boredom, and different directions – are in the same family. That means they could have the same root cause: a lack of caring and/or excessive self-interest or selfishness. Think about it. If you are into something and I’m not part of it, why not? Do I see it as “that’s your thing, not mine” and disengage? Or do you just not want me to be involved in things like your career, hobbies, friends?

Either way, eventually one of us is going to feel hurt, then I’ll get angry or bored – first with what you do, and then with you. Next I’m going to feel resentful. After a while I’m going to think “screw you” and find something that makes me happy. I decide to “do my own thing” – without you. Before either of us realizes it, we’ll have our own lives and, if we stay together, our common ground for conversation will be the kids. We’ll only get together as a couple for dinner with friends, holidays, weddings, and funerals.  

It happens. A lot! You already know at least one married couple like that, right? Maybe that’s what you saw your parents do when you were growing up. Or are watching it happen now to your best friend.

OK, you think, “that’s about them but it won’t be me.” True…for now. Today it seems like you won’t ever lose interest in your sweetie because s/he is so smart or funny or whatever. And you love football or soccer or dancing or music too (or whatever s/he is passionate about), so no problem…right? Wrong!

A few years from now, when life invades your love pod and you have a thousand things on your plate with four of them pressing hard on your brain, you won’ t give a flip about the latest news related to that passion. In fact, just hearing about it will set you off and could easily result in an argument and some icy feelings.

You don’t want that to happen, right? It doesn’t have to, but it’s up to you and your partner.

What Can You Do About Your Marriage Problems Today?

Your marriage is a partnership. Like all good partnerships, both partners look at the known problems and figure out how to handle them before they happen. It helps you in the short-term because you’re creating a pattern for problem-solving between you. Down the road, when unknown challenges come you way, you’ll already have a format for solving them and some history of success.

Figuring how to handle a problem in advance is a behavioral technique you are probably already familiar with from Weight Watchers. What WW tells you is to recognize what you crave (like chocolate or pizza) and, being honest, know you’ll crave it at some point. So, before you get into trouble, figure out a good alternative to that thing, e.g. a WW treat or low-cal pizza. Then, when you get that craving, you already know what to do and won’t sabotage yourself. The same with emotions. If you know you always eat when you are angry or depressed, WW tells you to recognize the “trigger” or warning sign and set up a system of what to do instead of eating that hot fudge sundae.

Of course, your marriage isn’t WW but the concept is the same. You look at a well-known issue (like any of the 6 mentioned here) and figure out a solution. You ask “how will we know it’s happening?” or “what are some things we can do to prevent that from happening?” And, like WW, you have regular meetings – Family Meetings – where you step away from your daily routine and focus on your relationship.

Big Benefits for Making Relationship Agreements

What you two are figuring out is how to create equality in your partnership. When you start early – while living together, during your engagement, or even early in your marriage – you get into a healthy pattern. You do it before anger, resentment and hurt feelings dominate, or before you think you’re being ignored or disrespected.

In addition, and this is one of the beauties of the Five-Year Marriage, you already know that things in life and in your relationship, are going to change. So you talk about them in advance and start figuring out your how-to-do-it and create a set of agreements now. Over time, some of those things will naturally need adjustments as jobs change, children come along, money problems creep in and more. As you live your life, and your marriage, you can make conscious adjustments along the way In The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm there is a whole chapter dedicated to things you need to talk about together, including lifestyle preferences and your agreements. Taking time to discuss those things is crucial to the long-term happiness of your relationship. Admittedly, planning your marriage is not as much fun as planning your wedding, but it’s way better than planning a divorce.

The Agile Marriage

Marriage is like life (with or without a partner). It’s a series of challenges, and a lot of curve balls get thrown your way. The secret of success for your Five-Year Marriage, for any marriage, is that you two regularly review your agreements. You decide what’s working and what’s not. You can either keep them as is, renegotiate parts that aren’t working, or ditch the bad ones and make new ones. You aren’t stuck “’til death” with any of them. And, because you’ve been working together, it isn’t scary or uncomfortable.

The difference can be profound, The choice is yours.

A Marriage Plan With Room For Growth And Change

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Engaged Couples: Consider The Five-Year Marriage’s Marriage Advice 

For couples who are considering marriage and newlyweds looking for marriage advice, consider reading Annmarie Kelly’s The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmThis unique approach to marriage is a game-changer for couples who want to leave room for growth and change in their relationship. The Five-Year Marriage has allowed Annmarie Kelly and her husband to experience growth alongside one another as a couple for the last 30 years by taking it just five years at a time. Now you can do the same! 

Tips For Newlyweds: Expect Change And Allow Growth 

Nothing and no one ever remains the same, which is why, for many people, a ‘til death marriage can seem so intimidating. The truth is, that the ‘til death idea of marriage is outdated. While it might have made sense about 100 years ago when life expectancy was much lower and you could expect to be dead by 50 or 60, it doesn’t make much sense now. 

The Five-Year Marriage is a marriage that allows – and expects – changes. Every five years, you and your partner approach your marriage with fresh eyes. You have the opportunity to rethink your relationship and consider your priorities. This plan allows you and your partner the room to grow and become your best selves together while experience safety, love, and mutual respect and trust. 

The Five-Year Marriage is the key to marrying your partner with clear expectations, understanding, and respect for one another. It is perhaps the most useful piece of advice for marriage that newlyweds or couples considering marriage. Don’t feel stuck in your marriage by succumbing to the pressure to do things the way they’ve always been done. Choose the marriage style that allows both you and your partner a level of independence and safety that will encourage you to feel closer and more intimate. 

Annmarie Kelly’s The Five-Year Marriage Offers The Best Marriage Advice 

Annmarie Kelly is a successful author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist. She has made a career out of empowering and helping out women. Now, she offers much-needed advice to married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact Annmarie Kelly

The Five-Year Marriage: Marriage Advice For New Couples

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How Can You Know If Marriage Is Really For You? 

If you’ve ever wondered if marriage is “for you,” you’re not alone. Making a marriage work is no easy task and, unfortunately, it’s something that many couples fail to accomplish. What if there were a more adaptive way to approach marriage? What if being married didn’t mean making the commitment all at once to be together ‘til death do you part? Annmarie Kelly’s The Five-Year Marriage plan could be for you! New couples, – you can learn about how The Five-Year Marriage could be the best marriage advice you’ve ever received. 

Marriage Advice That Shifts The Marriage Paradigm 

If traditional marriage makes you feel uneasy or if you worry that marriage could lead to feeling “stuck forever,” The Five-Year Marriage could be just what you need. Women especially may be worried about feeling stuck in a marriage that takes a turn for the worse. Historically, women have had very little choice in how and if they marry and if they could leave that marriage. 

The Five-Year Marriage Promotes Equal Partnership 

By following the plan of The Five-Year Marriage, married couples allow themselves to reconsider and renegotiate the terms of their marriage every five years. This renegotiation acknowledges the changes that have happened in the previous five years. By acknowledging and making room for growth in this way, married couples can enjoy an equal partnership with true intimacy. Annmarie Kelly herself has used this method to build a long-lasting relationship with her husband of 30+ years. They’ve taken the last 3 decades on together just five years at a time – and now so can you! 

Annmarie Kelly’s The Five-Year Marriage Offers The Best Marriage Advice 

Annmarie Kelly is a successful author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist. She has made a career out of empowering and helping out women. Now, she offers much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact Annmarie Kelly