Happy Thanksgiving!

Longwood.GlassPumpkins Wherever you are and whatever you are doing, I wish you a fabulous day of Thanksgiving.

Don’t forget to check out last week’s guest Sharon O’Connor’s “attitude of gratitude” tips and her special Friday Happy Hour gift to the Victorious Woman Community: Happy Hour with Sharon O’Connor

Happy Thanksgiving to you and yours!!!

Is Social Media Sabotaging Communication?

EmoticonsBetween facebook, twitter and texting, we sometimes think that sound bites, shared links, winks and 140 character tweets are communication. But while clever phrases and social media quickies can convey an update or a sentiment (or a snipe), they do nothing to make a real connection.
It’s the same thing with profiles on networking sites. Reading some carefully crafted description of someone is like reading a product description for new software – you learn about functionality but can’t tell if you’ll like it. You won’t really get a feel for the program – or the person – until you interact with it.
That’s where your real communication skills come into play. Communication enables you to develop rapport. That means you have a feeling for and about the other person that is marked by harmony, conformity, affinity. Rapport’s synonyms include fellowship, camaraderie, and understanding.
In my life I notice rapport happens easily when I take walks with people. There’s something about walking next to somebody for a few miles that is a natural rapport-builder. Rapport also happens fast when I meet someone from Havertown, where I grew up. When we talk about the scrumptious smells that wafted through the air in the blocks around the old Bubble Gum factory at 5 o’clock and how we still miss Weinberg’s in the Manoa Shopping Center, we connect at a level that could take longer with someone else.
You can build rapport around travel, music, certain kinds of books, ideology, common interests, common problems, food and hundreds of other things. The secret is in your ability to find that one thing, that bridge that leads to rapport. And sometimes that one thing can be a shared love of social media. But social media itself…it just doesn’t do the trick.
Without real communication you don’t have rapport. Without rapport, you don’t have connection. Without connection, relationships are empty and meaningless. Being in rapport will make you feel safe enough to listen to each other and trust that you can resolve a conflict when you disagree. Rapport is the glue that helps us stick together.
So, if you aren’t happy with something that’s going on with the people in your life or career and you want to interact more effectively in the workplace, or be a good leader, or have better relationships with your loved ones and friends, find that one place of common ground, talk about it face to face, and use it to build rapport.

Annmarie Kelly speaks at the Great Dames Delaware Series on April 22

Annmarie Kelly Speaks At Great Dames Event“Savvy Sizzle: Designing the Life of Your Dreams”

Is your life SAVVY or sappy?
Does your life SIZZLE with Satisfaction or feel like it’s wilting away, day by day?
Author and Victory Coach Annmarie Kelly will show you:

  • The four MUST-KNOW lifestyles that either support or sabotage your success.
  • Six MUST-HAVE victory skills
  • The power your values have to make your life either savvy or sappy
  • How to take your first POWER STEPS toward your next victory

at “The Great Dames Delaware Series” on April 22, 2013.
Event Flier | Event Registration
Tickets:
$35 or $60 for the pair of remaining events
5:30 to 7:00pm
Pizza By Elizabeths
Location: 3801 Kennett, Pike, Greenville
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Marianne Williamson and Influence

“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, and fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small doesn’t serve the world. There’s nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We are all meant to shine, as children do. We are born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone.
And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”
Marianne Williamson

 

Last Chance to register for Annmarie Kelly's speech at the WWB on March 21st!

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Flipping the Switch: From Pressure to Power
Change and stress are inevitable any time and anywhere. But in today’s economy, you have to do business with less and still juggle your personal responsibilities. The combination seems like a never-ending challenge that can wreak havoc on your health, work & relationships. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Once you understand where your control lies in any situation, you can put yourself back in the driver’s seat of your life. You won’t eliminate stress but you can reduce it significantly, no matter what is happening around you.
Hear Annmarie at this great venue and be inspired to reach your next VICTORY!
Date: March 21st, 2013
Location: University & Whist Club, Wilmington, DE
Time: 5:30pm – 7:30pm
Cost: Member Rate: $35.00, Guest Rate: $45.00
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Annmarie speaks to Wilmington Women in Business on March 21

Flipping the Switch: From Pressure to Power
Change and stress are inevitable any time and anywhere. But in today’s economy, you have to do business with less and still juggle your personal responsibilities. The combination seems like a never-ending challenge that can wreak havoc on your health, work & relationships. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Once you understand where your control lies in any situation, you can put yourself back in the driver’s seat of your life. You won’t eliminate stress but you can reduce it significantly, no matter what is happening around you.
Hear Annmarie at this great venue and be inspired to reach your next VICTORY!
Date: March 21st, 2013
Location: University & Whist Club, Wilmington, DE
Time: 5:30pm – 7:30pm
Cost: Member Rate: $35.00, Guest Rate: $45.00
Register now!

Are You an Influencer?

Women’s History Month is the perfect time to focus on INFLUENCE, the March Victorious Woman theme. Women who make history often do so because they are influencing experts. They know how to create influence for themselves and they know how to influence other people and events.
Yet many women push influence away. If you think you might be one of them, ask yourself why. The answer could make the difference between merely surviving from day-to-day and advancing your life and career into the one your really want, that makes you really happy.
You are likely pushing influence away if you:

  • Don’t like attracting attention; it’s safer to fly under the radar
  • Speak up, or speak up too often, others might think you are acting like a Power Bxxxx
  • Don’t like rocking the boat, you would rather keep the peace
  • Think you have more influence being in the background and letting someone else be the “spokesperson”
  • Want a seat at the table but don’t think you are good enough. After all, you’ve been working hard so, if you were good enough, someone would have noticed.
  • See yourself as a small fish in a big pond

We’ll be looking at some of these over the next month. If you have questions, send them to me and I’ll explore them here or in Kelly’s Café.

Annmarie Kelly speaks at the Great Dames Delaware Series on April 22

Annmarie Kelly Speaks At Great Dames Event“Savvy Sizzle: Designing the Life of Your Dreams”

Is your life SAVVY or sappy?
Does your life SIZZLE with Satisfaction or feel like it’s wilting away, day by day?
Author and Victory Coach Annmarie Kelly will show you:

  • The four MUST-KNOW lifestyles that either support or sabotage your success.
  • Six MUST-HAVE victory skills
  • The power your values have to make your life either savvy or sappy
  • How to take your first POWER STEPS toward your next victory

at “The Great Dames Delaware Series” on April 22, 2013.
Event Flier | Event Registration
Tickets:
$35 or $60 for the pair of remaining events
5:30 to 7:00pm
Pizza By Elizabeths
Location: 3801 Kennett, Pike, Greenville
Register Today!

Creating Influence: Strengthen Your Leadership Skills

Why do women embrace the “diva” label but shy away from leadership? Personally, I don’t get it.
In The Urban Dictionary (www.urbandictionary.com), there are many definitions for the word “diva” and most of them echo this definition:  “a bitchy woman that must have her way exactly, or no way at all. often rude and belittles people, believes that everyone is beneath her and thinks that she is so much more loved than what she really is. selfish, spoiled, and overly dramatic.”
But there is a nicer definition:
“1.to describe a person who exudes great style and personality with confidence and expresses their own style and not letting others influence who they are or want to be. 2. A person whose character makes them stands out from the rest. 3. Noun; a person’s title in a group of friends or in society that is popular or famous and who many people try to copy. 4. A person who tries to achieve what they want and who do not let people get in their way, and doing so with style and class.
If someone was talking about you, and calling you a diva, which definition would you want them to be using? More importantly, which definition do you want defining you?
My guess is that you’d choose one of all of the meanings in the second definition. Am I right?
If I am, then you are aspiring to leadership. You can massage the words to make them sound better, but it’s about leadership – life leadership. Here’s ways to define good leader:
Is authentic: you’re real, honest and confident. All too often a woman – especially when she’s young – is acting like someone she wants to be or thinks she should be. When you aren’t your real self, you cheat yourself out of a degree of self-confidence and poise that a phony can never enjoy. “…not letting others influence who they are or want to be.”
Has a vision of her life: You don’t follow the pack or let someone else talk you into following their vision (unless the visions intersect). If you don’t have your own vision – your plan, your agenda, your dreams and goals, you’ll end up doing something that is opposed to your own good – a job you hate, a marriage that makes you feel used and unappreciated, a relationship that’s all give on your end and all take on the other end.
Takes action: You don’t talk about what you’re going to do someday without taking some action (e.g. taking a course, volunteering to get experience). It may take a long time to achieve your vision, but if you don’t take action, nothing will happen…and then you’ll die.,
Has good character: You know what you stand for – honesty, integrity, dependability, etc. And you act accordingly. There is an old adage that says that character is what you do when no one is looking. “A person whose character makes them stands out from the rest.”
Has good boundaries: You can’t be the leader of your life when you let people walk all over you, or yell at you or take advantage. As a good leader, you
Can be depended on for her professionalism and follow through.