Melinda Emerson on the Friday Happy Hour

Melinda Emerson on Friday Happy HourDoes your midlife reinvention include starting your dream  business? Or do you already have a business that could use a mini-makeover? Then you need to hear from The Small Biz Lady, Melinda Emerson. She’s joining Annmarie Kelly at this week’s Friday Happy Hour and she has lots of ideas for you.

Melinda Emerson “SmallBizLady” is America’s #1 Small Business Expert. Her brand reaches 3 million entrepreneurs a week online. Her mission is to End Small Business Failure. Forbes named her the #1 women for small business owners to follow on twitter.

 www.succeedasyourownboss.com

www.facebook.com/smallbizlady

You can find her new book Fix Your Business on amazon.com

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Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions

Ten Tips for Keeping Your New Year’s Resolutions

A clean slate, an unwritten chapter, a brand new baby year. Whatever you call it, the New Year is a way of organizing time. As such, to many people – and maybe you too – it feels like an opportunity to make a fresh start. Even if you don’t make resolutions, you probably have thoughts about what you want, and want to happen, over the next 12 months.

Still, over the course of the next 12 months, life will have a way of getting in your way. When it does, all the hopes and good intentions you have now can easily find their way onto “someday I’ll.”

If you’ve spent more time than you’d like on “someday I’ll,” you can make 2015 different. You have the power – and nobody can take it from you. Here are ten tips for how to keep the momentum going throughout the year:

  1. Be clear about what you want (or want to change
  2. Write your resolution down and put it where you can see it
  3. Make a vision board
  4. Have a plan
  5. Take one action every day – no excuses – even little steps forward count
  6. Embrace change
  7. Master your personal power
  8. Build a victory team
  9. Stay focused on the end game
  10. Savor the moment

Happy New Year!

May 2015 bring you

health, happiness and abundant prosperity!

RadioWrap-Up: Reinventions

AnnmarieKelly.WCBM..web We talked about snow, and homecomings and reunions. I talked about Jospeh’s school, the Scotland School for Veteran’s Children. Do you know anyone from there?
We talked about life reinventions with June Davidson. She’s a speaker and the CEO and President of American Seminar Leaders based in Pasadena, CA, www.asla.com and CEO/President of Coaching Firm International, www.coachingfirminternational.com, She is also the founder of “The Possibility People”. She shared her insights and then did a coaching session with Pam Mariani, a long-time friend of the show.
It was all pretty interesting! Stay tuned for teleseminars and webinars on this topic that I’ll be hosting starting in January.

Do-Over Tip#10: Focus

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A recent Victorious Woman survey indicated that distractions are a woman’s biggest goal-achieving challenge. Not surprising – women are so used to multi-tasking and giving their time to help others, that they often get side-tracked.
But it’s not just other people that create the distraction. Most women have many interests and talents. It’s easy to pay attention to that shiny thing over there instead of focusing on that boring, tedious thing right in front of you. And that’s how your life gets to feeling fractured and unproductive and lacking the satisfaction of purpose.
Fifteen years ago I joined a behavior modification program for weight loss. It became the focus of my life. My B-mod program and my work were the main things I worked on. I gave those two things about 80% of my attention, time and energy. The rest went to my relationship with Joseph. Over the course of twenty-four months I lost fifty pounds. I maintained that weight loss for over ten years.
Then my mom got older and needed progressively more care-giving. Though I’m one of four children, I felt more and more like I was the only child (many of you know what I’m talking about!). I lost my PPF – personal positive focus.
When my mom died, and I got fully back to my work, my business felt like a hobby and I was twenty pounds heavier. Though I had no regrets for using my time the way I did, at the same time I had to start over – not what I anticipated at that stage of my career. And taking off twenty pounds in midlife is not a piece of cake.
Still, difficult doesn’t mean impossible. You can trust me and my experience when I tell you that you can only manage a challenge by staying laser focused on your end game.
Do-overs and Second Chances demand that you order your priorities, be crystal clear about what you want to do (your goals), how you’ll do it (your strategy) and laser-focused on completing tasks. When you do, step-by-step, you turn your life around and experience the joy that second chances promise: the life you love living.


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Do-Over Tip#9: Get Accountable

GroupFind A Coach or Accountability Partner

We all have good intentions when we set a goal. But, as the saying goes, the road to hell is paved with good intentions. That’s why, especially in a do-over, you need someone who will hold you accountable to your commitments.
A coach is a good choice. There are different kinds of coaches. If you want to meet someone new, you can find a relationship coach. If you want to change your lifestyle, do something new or achieve a specific goal, find a life coach. Whatever change you want to make, a coach will help you do it.
Most coaches will do a baseline meeting to determine if you are a good match. Those first meetings are usually at no charge but the coach will talk about how much, how often, what you expect from the coach and what the coach expects from you.
If the cost is too much, or if you really just need to be accountable, find an accountability partner. S/he is someone you meet with regularly. You might meet weekly, every other week on just once a month. When you meet, you and your partner talk about what you’ve done since the last time you talked and what you are committing to do by the next time.
If you can find someone who is also working on a goal, the two of you can help each other. Or you can have a group of people who are all working on goals. As a group, you figure out the time, the frequency, the location and establish rules that you all agree to for participating in the group.
At the Victorious Woman Project, we have “Victory Teams” of as many as six people. The members help and challenge each other to their next victories. Most Victory Teams last anywhere from six months to a year. That’s pretty common for accountability teams.
To get started, find one person who is interested in making some personal or professional change. Establish your ground rules and get started – you’ll be amazed at what you get done!


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Do-Over Tip#8: Find Your Tribe

Smiling Group of Professionals --- Image by © Royalty-Free/CorbisWhere’s Your Tribe?

OK, so you aren’t a native American. But you’ve heard it before – birds of a feather flock together. That’s because they have something in common. A tribe, in today’s culture, are those people you resonate with – your birds of a feather. Your do-over will go much easier if you are with people who understand what your experiencing.

Between in-person groups and online groups, you have no excuse for not finding people with whom you can connect and share experiences. There are groups for the divorced, for the loss of a loved on, singles, new business owner, ballroom dancers, scuba divers, hikers…just about anything that you’re feeling or anything want to do or learn, you can find a group.

When Regina went through a very nasty divorce, she joined a group at her church. It helped her connect with other people who were in the same kind of pain. Gradually she got more comfortable being by herself at social events. After a while, she remembered her love for dancing. Sp first she joined a line dancing group at the local night school – no partner needed. She learned new dances and, from time to time, the class went out socially together. Little by little she found other dance groups and learned other dances. Finally she took ballroom lessons and found her passion. Last time I heard, though still single, Regina goes dancing a couple times a week, goes to ballroom dancing weekend workshops and even does an occasional “showcase” – all with partners who are happy to be with her.

You can join our Victory Chicks Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/569757436525400

Or you can find other online groups easily with a few clicks. “Live” groups aren’t much harder. If you’re stuck for ideas, go to meetup.com. There you’ll find hundreds of places where you’re “tribe” hangs out.

Enjoy!


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Do-Over Tip#7: Embrace the Change

OpenArmsGive That Change a Big Hug!

Change is a forever part of life. No matter who you are, where you live, or what you do, change happens.
Every second chance in life begins with a change. Maybe the change happened outside of you, like the death of a loved one, a move to a new house, your company merging with another, or even your favorite TV show going off the air. On the other hand, you may be the change catalyst because you decided you want something different than the empty relationship or the iunfulfilling job.
Either way, whenever change happens, you experience grief. Of course, the grief you feel will be very different if involves the loss of a loved one vs. your favorite TV show begin cancelled. And it’s easier to manage if you initiated the change. But the one thing that is as constant as change is the sense of loss. Loss is accompanied by grief. Grief has five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
When it comes to dealing with change, it’s safe to say that most women get stuck in one of the five stages of grief. Most commonly it’s in the anger or depression stages. Here’s an example: You’re angry over a divorce or losing your job. You bargain in your head, thinking, “maybe if I do this…or that…I can still keep my marriage together or hold onto my job.” When that doesn’t work, you get depressed. There is much research that supports the idea that depression is anger turned inward.
So what do you do? Stay angry for the rest of your life? Some women do. Or do you go into a depression that you don’t get out of without medication? That happens a lot.
While change is constant and grief has its stages, in the middle of all that, you have some control.  No matter what happens, you control your reaction to change.
Once you understand the stages of grief, and recognize where you are, you have a better shot at moving through the stage if you let go of the past and embrace the change. Of course, it’s easy to do when you’re reading it and not so easy when you’re living it. But resisting the changes don’t do anything for you except make your do-over transition harder, maybe even more painful.
The faster you recognize, deal with and move through the stages of grief, the sooner you’ll embrace that fact that your life has changed – and the faster you’ll get to the good stuff.
So…what are you waiting for?


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Do-Over Tip#6: Trust But Verify

FreeFallHow Much Should You Trust Your Gut?

A LinkedIn discussion started with the question: Do you trust your gut in making big decisions or do you have a process that you follow?

I was surprised by how many business women trust their gut exclusively. I believe that’s a mistake. Not the trust your gut part, but the exclusively part. And I say that coming from a lifetime of being pretty intuitive. I can honestly say my “gut-o-meter” is better than most. Still, in times of stress, I know how easy it is to confuse a gut feeling with fears and wants.

Too often I’ve listened to women who tell stories about jumping into something because some feeling says “yes” even when everything else says “no” or “wait” to get more information. They are willing to get involved with that “bad news” guy or get talked a business partnership that could never work out except on paper. When asked “what would happen if…” questions, too many women are willing to say something like “I”ll worry about that if it happens.” Later, when something goes bad, most women admit, “I had a feeling about that, but I ignored it.”

Trusting your gut is easier when you’ve looked at all sides and faced potential problems. Yes, it’s true you can spend too much time weighing pros and cons and lose an opportunity. What’s more likely, however, is that you’ll only focus on the good potential outcomes and ignore the rest. You can get into more trouble by not looking at all the things that could go wrong and determining how you will handle them if something happens.

On top of that, in the middle of a do-over, your intuition can get clouded by stress. It can also get clouded by the desire to get to the end or the pressure to make a decision.  Any of those can gunk up the channel to your higher self.

How do you avoid that? Look at what you want to do, then:

  • List of all the good outcomes
  • List all known obstacles
    • Get input from people you trust. That may or may not be family and friends. It might be really good to get help from a coach or counselor.
    • Brainstorm how you could handle those obstacles
    • Be honest with yourself about your physical and emotional ability to deal with the obstacles and its remedy
      • Let’s say you want to buy a house. You find one you really love and the realtor says you can afford it. Yet it’s at the very high end of your price range. Still, you really, really want it. On the upside, it’s in a great location so there’s a 99% chance it will appreciate in value. On the downside, it needs some work. You think your gut is telling you to buy it, telling you how happy you’ll feel living there. But the obstacles include living in the home for a while before you can redecorate, furnish and upgrade. Can you live with that? Will the stress put a strain on your personal relationship, and maybe other relationships?
  • Once you know what obstacles you could be facing, figure out how you will handle them.
    • In my success workshops I teach women to list out whatever obstacles they can so those can be dealt with up front, or at least prepared for in advance. That preparation can relieve some stress and, as a result, let real intuition float into consciousness and be helpful.
  • Sit down with the pros and cons. Now you’re better prepared to make an intuitive decision. Sit quietly and let your gut talk to you.
  • If you feel a ‘yes’ then go forward. But pay attention and be open to a ‘no’ if it comes up (that is, don’t ignore your gut).

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Tips for Do-Overs & Second Chances

Making the Most of a Do-Over or Second Chance in Midlife

toptenSometimes life gives you the opportunity for a Do-Over, a Second Chance to get it right. Maybe you get to make the choice yourself, other times someone makes it for you. The truth is, even when you made the choice to leave a relationship, a job, a city or anything else, change is seldom easy. This month’s tips will help you through to the other side of change. If you are in a do-over now, though it doesn’t feel like it at the moment, trust that your life will be better, happier and more fulfilling.

To make the most of your midlife makeover, here are Ten Tips for Do-Overs and Second Chances:

  1. Acknowledge the change
  2. Develop a “big picture” for your desired end result
  3. Be open to what’s new
  4. Put a self-care plan in place
  5. Get sound advice
  6. Find a mentor
  7. Embrace the changes
  8. Find your own crew, tribe or team
  9. Connect with a coach or an accountability partner
  10. Stay focused

This month I’ll be focusing on these tips in my Victory Blog.

Join me on the Do-Over journey and post your comments and questions below.

Taking Charge: Get Unstuck

StuckFirst, Get Unstuck

I know. It’s easier said than done. But it IS doable.
Here’s the thing…for as long as you are feeling stuck, it’s like stepping on gum in the street, driving through the construction or getting that last minute work project. You know how that is…you step on gum, it trips you up, and then it’s on the bottom of your shoe, sticking to everything. It stays there until you do something to take it off. Or you’re trying to get home or to a meeting and someone hands you a folder and says that it has to be finish…now. And you can’t leave. You’re stuck…and you’re ticked off.
How do you get unstuck?
First, figure out where you are stuck…in your job, a relationship, the past, your comfort zone. Then begin to figure out what you need to do to unravel the situation. Start by asking questions…and look for honest answers. What is it about:

  • Your job? The boss or co-workers or the travel or the work itself?
  • The relationship? Is it unfulfilling, boring, abusive…or just plain dead?
  • The past? If you can’t let it go, get some professional help or work with radical forgiveness.
  • Your comfort zone? Start saying ‘yes’ whenever someone asks you to do something new…or even just outside your comfort zone. Read Lu Ann Cahn’s book, I Dare Me, about her year of “firsts”

You can’t get unstuck unless you figure it out. You can’t be in control of your life unless you are free to move forward toward your wants and desires…the MORE that will make you happy.