The Five-Year Marriage®: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm

If you think the “until death do you part” marriage – the way couples have been doing it for centuries – is the only way to do it, think again.

Now there’s a better way to do “I DO”
– one where you get to:

  • be loved
  • feel safe
  • experience mutual respect
  • partner equally
  • grow into your best self
  • enjoy true intimacy

That’s what you really want in marriage, isn’t it?

The Five-Year Marriage® shows you how to get it.

The Five-Year Marriage® shifts the paradigm from “stuck forever”  to  “five years and renegotiate.”

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Doesn’t that make so much more sense? As the woman who’s been living marriage that way since 1988, I can tell you with certainty that it makes perfect sense – especially for women…and the men who love them.

This book, The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm, will show you how to make it happen!

The Five-Year Marriage® doesn’t mean five years and you’re out. It’s grounded in the reality that things change and people change. Because they do, from time to time you need to rethink, reorganize, and reset your relationship. Five years is a good time frame for doing it.

When you do, you get a fresh start. Your “new” marriage will reflect who you are now, not who you were five years ago, or even on your wedding day – before you had kids, moved, changed jobs or careers, or had that big fight.

Sure…maybe the ’til death marriage made sense hundreds of years ago when people only lived to be 40. Or maybe it even made sense in old-century patriarchal times when women were expected to stay home to cook, clean, and make babies. It’s what your grandmother did – maybe even your mother.


Those were the olden days. It’s the 21st century, and this is NOT YOUR MOTHERS MARRIAGE.  Women – like you – are independent and your life and lifestyle show it. You pay your own way, live in a house or condo you own, and make your own schedule. You can be a CEO, CFO or some other C-suite spot. You – and millions of other smart and  savvy singles aren’t interested in giving that up and become a CCB –  chief cook and bottle washer.

Yet you DO want to share your life with someone. And you want to be happy doing it. You just don’t want to give up all you worked hard for…just to be married

The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm will help you design a relationship with the one you love that can be equally responsible and accountable. It’s based on intention, boundaries, and accountability – the stuff that protects and grows mutual respect, love, and true that both of you are empowered and neither of you gets left behind.

In The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm shows you how to push past the crappy stuff…the stuff that trips people up…and the resulting  disappointment.

Sharing personal stories of both success and failure, Annmarie Kelly’s candid style will encourage you to work toward  more practically-designed lifestyle.

Even if you have been married for a while you can find common ground, rekindle old fires, and get your marriage back on track – no matter how hard the ground has grown between you two.

You can do it – the book shows you how. Order it now, available in paperback and Kindle: The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm

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Sure you know that half of all marriages end in divorce. And who knows how many of the other half are really happy or just marriages of habit or convenience. Maybe you’ve lived in one of them and are nervous about getting into another one. Yet you miss some of the good things about marriage – the partnership, the companionship, and more. If you don’t want the same thing the second time around, there’s another way. It takes guts and skill and the victory stretch can challenge you like nothing else, but the end result is worth it.

What IS the Five-Year Marriage®?

Annmarie Kelly was been in the same place you are now. She watched her friends change when they got married, and not always for the better. She saw many marriages lose their luster and end in divorce. Worse than that, too many marriages didn’t end in divorce, but should have – for the health, happiness and well-being of the couple, and their children. After a while, Annmarie started thinking that marriage wasn’t such a good deal – especially for a woman. After working hard to become independent, she got to wondering if marriage was really for her.

Yet, at the same time, she was tired of going it alone in life. She wanted the tender relationship of marriage that included both partnership and intimacy.

It wasn’t until she found a man she could consider marrying that Annmarie found a better way. Instead of settling for the “till death do us part” stranglehold, Annmarie opted for a different kind of partnership. It’s one that is short-term and contractual. The end of each marriage includes an options to continue, but with a whole new contract.

The Five-Year Marriage® isn’t some simple old-school idea for renewing your vows. Instead, each marriage is separate from the last, making it new and different. Each one challenges the status quo of traditional marriages.

In The Five-Year Marriage®, Annmarie Kelly challenges conventional wisdom and tradition with a process that shifts the paradigm to a more practical and more tailored to each couple’s relationship.

Annmarie blazes a new trail through the wild adventure called marriage with:

  • The Solid Seven traits to look for in the Five-Year Marriage® Partner
  • Family Meetings: including powerful ground rules that make a difference
  • Six Keys for keeping your marriage up-to-speed
  • And much more!

The Five-Year Marriage® totally changes the way couples view marriage and, more importantly, how they live it. As a partnership, the Five-Year Marriage® asks couples to be present with each other, focus on communication, and consciously embrace life’s changes. It empowers couples to live their best life together…but just for five years.

The Five-Year Marriage® is like a warm hug and a kick in the butt.

It’s a game-changer!

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I was definitely intrigued by the concept of The Five-Year Marriage®. Being happily married for more than ten-years I doubted there was anything in this book I didn’t know. Not only was I wrong I was inspired to start numerous conversations with my husband about where we’ve been and where we want to go.
– Doreen McGettigan

This is a well-written book that makes people want to read it. The arguments are convincing and the light conversational tone and the humor add to its appeal.
– Julie Ross, Award-winning journalist

Annmarie Kelly has written the blueprint for long-term marriage success and created a template for relationship longevity. This is how every modern marriage should be viewed. And the Five-Year Marriage® guide may just save your marriage. 
– Helen Goltz, Author

What Annmarie writes, “almost nothing lasts sixty years anymore” is really true. Everything evolves, and changes. The Five-Year Marriage® is organized to help us make a conscious effort to be attentive, and then we have the power to advance this relationship with mindful adjustments, and as Annmarie says “create a marriage that you’ll love living.”
– Maryann Volpe, long-time spouse (50+ years), mother and grandmother

The Five-Year Marriage® is a very compelling idea. I see many things that my spouse and I do in our marriage that keeps it good, and also many things I’d like to start doing! I can see older married couples as well as young people embracing the concepts. 
– Wendy Mackowski Wendy Mackowski, MA, CPCC, Holistic Life Coach

When I saw the title, I was curious about what a five-year marriage would be, what it would mean, and how it could make marriage better. After reading the book, I get it!

The book lays out the what, the why, and the how of what “being married” really means. It also gives readers ideas for conversations both for before and after marriage. (I liked this part the best!)

I thought that Joseph’s (the writer’s husband) comments throughout the book added a different perspective as well.
This isn’t the traditional marriage book. It’s a really interesting idea! And, because we are living years longer than the couples from previous generations, it makes perfect sense.

The Five-Year Marriage is a good positive read for couples considering marriage; for newlyweds and for those long-time married partners who need a “refresh.”
~Grace H (Amazon Verified Review)

Great relationship guidance. A must read for everyone wanting strong, loving, and continuously growing relationships. Use the rubric with a spouse or your about to become teenage children. A two sided contact with your 13-18 year old child will mitigate many of the conflicts that occur during those years. Family meetings serve as a communication tool to create open dialogue leading to better understanding and acceptance.
~Kate DiPronio

So much to learn reading this book. I was so impressed I passed the book on to a young couple who have not yet made a commitment to marrying but could in the future.
~Augie Murray-Young

Excellent book!!!
~Csimplot Simplot