Five-Year Marriage® Featured on The Philadelphia Inquirer

“The first time Joseph said he’d like to marry her, Annmarie was overwhelmed with dread.

She loved him. He loved her. A marriage could ruin everything!”

I’m blown away by the beautiful job columnist Kellie Patrick Gates did on this article in today’s The Philadelphia Inquirer. She managed to capture the essence of the Five Year Marriage® and described my 7 marriages in the most loving way (which, if your read her column regularly, you know “loving” is her style). Thank you Kellie for featuring Joseph Eagle and me in this article!!

Read the full article here: https://www.inquirer.com/life/annmarie-kellly-joseph-eagle-reiki-marriage-personal-goals-five-year-commitments-20200809.html

five-year marriage on the Philadelphia inquirer

Join the Romance Month Challenge!

August is
Romance Awareness Month!

Did you know August is Romance Awareness Month? Eileen Buchheim, who is credited with creating Romance Awareness Month, wanted to encourage couples to improve and enhance their relationships throughout the year – not just on Valentine’s Day.

To help YOU put a little sparkle and fire back into YOUR relationship, I’ve created a 31-Day Romance Month Challenge. You can download it HERE. It’s chock full of easy & quick gestures of love and simple activities that you can do for, or with, your sweetie!

It’s also a great time to catch up on the latest romantic comedy movies & romance novels. I’d love to hear what your favorites are! Please post them on our Facebook page or Instagram Page.

Did you know that my latest, ground-breaking book, The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm is free for Kindle Unlimited members? August is the perfect month to check it out & apply the tools to improve YOUR relationship!

And if you need a little guidance on implementing those tools, check out the The 30-Day Relationship Reset online class. Use code ‘love4all’ to get $50 off!

I hope you enjoy Romance Awareness Month as much as I do!

In Love and Victory,
Annmarie

AUGUST 2020

Exciting News! 30 Day Relationship Reset has Launched!

Happy Thursday Everyone!

I trust you’re well and surviving this crazy social distancing summer. I’m surviving and have been busy. Now I’m SUPER excited to announce my newest program. But first, let me explain…

Back in March we all got hit with Covid confinement. A few weeks into the lockdown, calls with both my clients and girlfriends started having a similar sound – everyone was suddenly with their loved ones 24/7 – only not everyone was feeling so loving. The pandemic news was stressful enough on its own, but for many couples – and I mostly talked to the women – lockdwon brought to light many dysfunctional issues in their relationships.

At the same time, I started sensing that long-time married couples, ane even some newlyweds, were intimidated by the marriage model presented in my ground-breaking and game-changer book, The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm. The women I’ve talked to LOVE the idea of renegotiating their agreements and getting a fresh start. However, like many life-changing ideas, it was also daunting. I’d hear them say things like, “This makes so much sense, I wish I’d had this forty years ago. Now I think it’s too late for us.”

Only, IT’S NOT TOO LATE!

I know from experience that within The Five-Year Marriage® concept there are extremely effective and valuable tools that ANY relationship can benefit from and use – ones I’ve been using for over 30 years through my 7 marriages with Joseph. And I know they work!

So, during lockdown, I decided to boil down the best parts of The Five-Year Marriage® – the ones that make the most sense for established couples. Then I arranged them into a manageable and highly effective format that couples can use to help get their relationships back on the right track, right now.

And so, The 30-Day Relationship Reset was born! 

This online program is a once-a-week “class” that walks you through the process of resetting your relationship to reflect what’s going on in your marriage/relationship now. And it’s LIVE online now! You can check it out by clicking here.

It’s a once-a-week program, delivered to your inbox. Each week includes:

  • A video explanation of the week’s plan – what to do and why it’s important for you. Most of the videos are relatively short – about 15 minutes.
  • Downloadable worksheets to guide your thought process – there are even a couple scripts to guide you and your sweetie through specific conversations, including the Family Meeting
  • Step-by-step instructions for using the worksheets
  • Additional tips & resources for understanding a bigger picture related to that week’s topic
AND, because everyone can use a little support and affirmation along the way, I also include:
  • A private Facebook group just for class members
  • Bi-monthly Q&A calls to provide detailed answers and research to help you problem-solve what’s happening on your unique journey. You’ll have access to these calls for 3 months – 6 calls ( just in case your reset takes longer than 30 days!)
  • Audio recordings of the Q&A calls

If you want to get your relationship back on track…
If you want to feel like you and your partner have each other’s back…
If you want to re-ignite the fun and intimate connection you once enjoyed with your partner…
THEN THIS CLASS IS FOR YOU! 

And as a thank you for being a loyal Five-Year Marriage follower, I’m offering you a special discount! $50 off the regular class price! Just use code “love4all” during checkout. Register here.

AND THAT’S NOT ALL!

You’ll also get a FREE Kindle copy of my book, The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm!

No matter how long you’ve been married, or living together, or simply dating, your relationship will benefit from this class!

I know it – in fact, I guarantee it! If, two weeks after I send your first 30-day Relationship Reset module, you aren’t satisfied with the program, I’ll give you your money back.

I’m Annmarie Kelly, award-winning author and speaker. I’m also the architect of the Five-Year Marriage® and the Godmother of Modern Marriage. I know how these past months have challenged you – body, mind, and soul. Me too! They’ve challenged all of us! That’s why I’m so incredibly excited to share this program with you, to help you and your sweetie refresh and reset – maybe even reverse course – so you can get back on track…together.

It’s not too late. You really can do this!

I’m looking forward to connecting with you during your remarkable 30-day Relationship Reset!

CLICK HERE TO
RESERVE YOUR SPOT!

My Five Year Marriage featured on Medium.com

I’m excited to have my marriage story & The Five Year Marriage featured in this great article on medium.com! It was a fun interview with Vicki Larson back in February – pre-covid. Vicki is on the same page about marriage – can’t wait to turn the tables and interview her on my new podcast…coming soon!

Read it here: https://medium.com/@OMGchronicles/why-all-women-need-renewable-marriage-contracts-1ce134c89890

Silver Linings

OK, it’s been three months and I’m officially done with this lockdown. You too?

BUT two weeks ago, things got really bad….I knew Joseph and I were down the rabbit hole when we got so bored with each other that we cleaned out the garage. It got worse. Last Sunday we drove to Strasburg (in Lancaster County) and wove in and out of the buggy traffic of Amish church-goers just to get an ice cream cone. A few nights ago we even started sorting through old pictures. Yikes!

However, it hasn’t all been boring. To jazz things up a bit, Joseph had hernia surgery. Covid put a whole new spin on “curbside pickup” at the hospital. Btw: we were both tested for Covid and, if you haven’t done it yet, that swab up the nose thing is wicked!

Looking on the bright side of a difficult midlife situation

But, you know, I started thinking about something last week. Joseph sent his clients an update email and also told them about his surgery. One of the clients replied almost joyfully. “I’m so glad you’re doing that now, when we can’t get in to see you anyway. You’ll be fresh and healthy when you do open. It’s a silver lining.”

Hmmmm….could there be a silver lining to lockdown? I started poking around in conversation and FB, and I heard things like…

  • “We’re getting to eat dinner all together as a family, and we talk.”
  • “My kids have discovered family game night, and we play and laugh together.”
  • “He’s been cooking – not just grilling – actually cooking! I like it.”
  • “We’ve spent more time alone together than we have in years, and it’s been nice.”
  • “I kind of like not having to be someplace all the time.”
  • “I learned to play cards with my friends on zoom.”

So I looked around my life for silver linings…

  • I got to have hours-long phone calls with my long-distance girlfriends – something we almost never have time to do.
  • Because we’re on the same time schedule together, Joseph and I are enjoying mid-week happy hours on our deck
  • After cleaning out the garage and tossing a ton of stuff, we agreed to sell the two bikes we haven’t used in 10 years. They sold in less than an hour on FB Marketplace.
  • Joseph got time to reread my book, The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm. It was the first time since pre-publication. He’s been giving me compliments like “You wrote a really good book” and “this is easy-to-read.” The funniest, however, was the day he quoted me…to me!

How about you? What silver linings have you discovered during this difficult time? Will you make them part of you post-covid playbook?

The country is starting to open up, so this is a good time to create your personal “silver linings playbook” – so you don’t forget to do the good stuff when life gets busy again.

And please share those silver linings with me and our Sister Victory Chicks in the private Victory Chicks Community

With love and in victory,
Annmarie


Introducing… LOVE AFTER LOCKDOWN! 

Something new…There’s only so much binge-watching anyone can do. So, in my off-binge time – and while I can’t be out doing speaking or workshops, I took a course to learn how to get better at doing online webinars. As a result, I developed two new online programs: Love After Lockdown – for couples who want to reset their relationship (coming in July) – with a FREE WEBINAR on July 7 – and The New Marriage for Smart Women, starting in September.

You can sign up for the FREE WEBINAR now: Love After Lockdown Registration 


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VIDEO: Tips for Couples – Surviving COVID Confinement

You and your partner likely aren’t used to being together all day long for weeks on end. It’s not unusual to get on each others nerves. Don’t let this unusual circumstance ruin your relationship! Annmarie Kelly & Joseph Eagle share four tips from the Five-Year Marriage® that will help you and your partner get through the Covid Confinement a little bit easier.

Feeling like you need a Relationship Reset?

I will be launching a 30-day Relationship Reset course in the next few weeks. Sign up for the Five-Year Marriage newsletter to get advance notice when registration opens! Click here to join: https://annmariekelly.com/newsletter-signup/ (you’ll also get instant access to the “4 Traits to Avoid at All Costs in a Partner” (pdf).

April – Fresh Starts

This month I focused on the importance of fresh starts in a relationship.

If you missed all the great content on my social media, you can catch up here!

Relationship Reset

Many of us might be feeling frustrated or resentful of our partner now that we’ve been quarantined for a few weeks with them. It’s probably time for a relationship reset: https://annmariekelly.com/2020/04/10/tips-for-resetting-your-relationship/

How to make your relationship a priority

During these days of covid-19 confinement, everyone’s patience is wearing thin. “I just can’t look at him another day” and “she’s driving me crazy” are just two comments I’ve heard from friends lately. Lost wages, lack of freedom and constant contact with spouses and children is making you and I stressed, depressed, and aggravated.

Take a deep breath. We’ll get through this!!!

In the meantime, and while you’re breathing deeply, remember to make your relationship with your sweetie a priority. Not sure what that means or how to do it? Check out this post for details: https://annmariekelly.com/2020/04/17/marrige-during-covid-19/

Some other interesting relationship articles in the news:

Are you thinking about having the Five Year Marriage conversation?

It is a process and something you have to work on for your fresh start!

“Think of it like planting flowers in the spring. Very often the ground is hard and compact. It doesn’t absorb water. As a result, you can’t plant anything. You can’t even get a shovel into the dirt. If you want to plant something, first you have to “condition” the ground with water. Then, when it’s aerated, you can start planting.”

https://annmariekelly.com/2019/04/09/what-if-he-isnt-interested/

Media Buzz!

I’m so excited to share my marriage story in this month’s Philadelphia Magazine!

‘Different Marriages’  were the topic of this month’s COVER STORY!! – it includes my very own Five-Year Marriage ® story!

https://annmariekelly.com/2020/03/30/contract-marriage-in-philadelphia-magazine/

 

This Is It TV Interview

I had a great time with Cheldin Barlatt Rumer on This Is It TV – we talked about the challenges relationships are facing in quarantine.

Check out the interview here: https://www.facebook.com/thisisittv/

Inspiration

Each week I post an inspiring quote on my social media accounts – here are the ones I shared this month. Feel free to download & share these meme’s on your own accounts if you like them!

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Available as a paperback or kindle

Your Marriage in Covid-19

Yesterday morning, when Joseph and I tripped over each other at the sink after breakfast, he noticed how I tensed up. He laughed and said, “I bet you’ll be glad when I’m back to leaving the house at 4:30.” He’s right. I have my own wake-up routine in the morning. He does too – he usually gets to work two hours before his first client so he can ease his way into the day.

Uncertainty can Cause Tension in Relationships

Neither of us is doing our own thing right now. We know it’s temporary….but how long is temporary? You’re probably wondering that too.

Covid Stress can Impact Your Relationship

During these days of covid-19 confinement, everyone’s patience is wearing thin. “I just can’t look at him another day” and “she’s driving me crazy” are just two comments I’ve heard from friends lately. Lost wages, lack of freedom and constant contact with spouses and children is making you and I stressed, depressed, and aggravated.

Take a deep breath. We’ll get through this!!!

In the meantime, and while you’re breathing deeply, remember to make your relationship with your sweetie a priority. Not sure what that means? Webster’s say that means “something given or meriting attention before competing alternatives.”

Don’t Take Your Relationship For Granted

Yes, the kids, the bills, food, and the mortgage are also priorities. But for some reason – and maybe because those important things are constantly knocking on the door – we take our most important relationship for granted.  Reports are that depression and loneliness are on the rise. Sadly, so is domestic abuse.

However, this bad time is going to be over. Soon enough you’ll be able to run to the food store anytime. You’ll catch up on the mortgage and get the bills paid eventually. The kids will go back to school someday. You’ll socialize and travel freely again. Those habitual things have a way of falling back into place.

Make Marriage a Priority

It’s not so easy with marriage. There’s no real “falling back into place” mechanism for relationships. If you want your marriage to survive and thrive, you MUST make it a priority. It has to come before the kids, the bills, and everything else. Marriage is like those gardens many people are planting in the backyard: it won’t grow unless you water and feed it. If you don’t, just as the garden will do if it doesn’t get attention, all that will be left will be weeds.

This period of confinement may have put a spotlight on some problem you have – maybe one you didn’t even know was a problem. Now you do. Don’t ignore it. But now isn’t the time for focusing on it. Instead, make a plan to talk about the problem issue when things are more normal.

Tips for Resetting your Relationship

In the meantime, take some mitigating actions. I listed a few ways to do that here: Relationship Reset Each suggestion is one small way to make your marriage your marriage #1 in your life. Start today.

Stay well!

Need help getting your marriage back in first place?

This book will show you how to make it happen – available in paperback and Kindle: The Five-Year Marriage ®

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Does Your Relationship Need a Reset?

Is Covid-19 causing you and your sweetie to get on each other’s nerves? It’s not a surprise – we aren’t used to being in such close quarters all the time. Someone recently told me, “I just can’t look at his face anymore.” Maybe that’s not you, but quarrels and squabbles seem to be affecting relationships everywhere.  Reports from China are that, since their confinement ended, there’s been a huge spike in divorces.

If you’re relationship is struggling and edging towards a breakup, try this

We’re all struggling – with close quarters, being out of work, stress about money, etc. All that, and all the uncertainty, tends to bring up a lot of “stuff” between couples. Whatever was brewing just under the surface before is likely to come out now. Some of it can be ugly.

Before tensions get totally out of control, take a deep breath.

Tips for calming tensions with your spouse

The tips below can help you. Do them – and not just one…do all of them!

  • Be polite – like you were in the beginning, when you remembered to say “please,” thank-you,” excuse me.”. A little politeness can go a long way to easing tensions.
  • Say thank-you – Everyone likes appreciation and, in confinement, it’s usually in short supply. Thank you’re sweetie today at least 3 times today. See what happens.
  • Give each other some “me” time – A little alone time is good for both of you
  • Plan a private rendezvous by candlelight…even if it’s just you two alone in the bedroom, on the patio or (if it’s the only way to get away from kids) in the basement. Have nice conversation…talk about some of your best times together. Stirring up those good memories can lead to sweetness….and maybe some good “sexual healing”

Reset Your Relationship in 30 Days

When the Covid confinement is over, you may want to regroup. So consider a 30-Day Relationship Reset.  That’s where you “review” where you’ve been, figure out what’s working and what’s not, and make a plan – a reset – for going forward. Using those tips will be like planting a seed and watering it.

Resetting your relationship is the basis of The Five-Year Marriage® Method – and you absolutely need it now! Download a copy to your Kindle today: The Five-Year Marriage

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March – Communication

This month I focused on the importance of communication in a relationship.

You’re likely quarantined at home with your partner, making clear, honest and open communication more important than ever.

If you missed this information on our social media channels, you can catch up here:

Watch: Unspoken Agreements in a Relationship

What are unspoken agreements and how to talk about them:

Don’t Live Silently in an Unhappy Relationship!

In No Sound, No Fury, No Marriage, Ms. Pritchett described her twenty year marriage of silence. Many people STILL do this today – but you don’t have to stay silent. You CAN speak up! Read more: https://annmariekelly.com/2016/12/15/five-year-marriage/

Haven’t Times Changed For Women and for Marriage?

Why haven’t we evolved more in our 21st century than in the 3rd, 14th or 20th centuries? Can only women nurture? And can only men fulfill their goals and follow their dreams? Of course not!
https://annmariekelly.com/2019/01/10/women-and-marriage-have-times-changed/

What do you want in a Marriage?

Establishing common values is essential for the longevity of a relationship. When you both know what you want when you start out, and then you consciously focus on how your values and goals change with over time you have a greater opportunity to develop maximum intimacy. Read more: https://annmariekelly.com/2013/05/17/101/

PSA – Open Communication is Key to a Happy Relationship

People in healthy relationships communicate with each other in an open and honest way. They do not use words to hurt each other.

Is it Time to Abandon Traditional Marriage?

Are traditional dating rituals messing up marriage for today’s professional women?  https://www.theatlantic.com/ideas/archive/2020/02/if-you-want-marriage-equals-then-date-equals/606568/

Don’t be afraid to speak up. Here’s some tips.

Ever feel like you’re taking to the wall instead of your spouse, partner, kids, or co-workers? It’s happened to all of us…but it doesn’t have to be that way. If you want to speak to be heard, here are four tips:

  • Be clear about what you want – fuzzy thinking creates vague speech that gets dismissed
  • Speak with definiteness of purpose – being choppy in the way you say it undermines your power
  • Using a firm “I need” or “I want” will get more positive attention than saying “You should” or “You have to”
  • Stay positive but not syrupy 

If you find those things hard, like anything else, the more you practice the better you get. 

Bonus tip: Toastmasters is a great place to get practice in a safe environment. Find your local club at toastmasters.org

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