The Five-Year Marriage: Making Your Marriage A Priority

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The Five-Year Marriage Helps Engaged Couples Learn To Prioritize Their Marriage 

Many people today have mixed opinions about marriage. Many are aware of the high divorce rates in our country and rightfully worry that marriages won’t last. At the same time, many of those people also want to get married. Couples who are considering marriage have to ask themselves – is marriage worth it? How can we make our marriage different? How can our marriage last? I’m Annemarie Kelly, and in my book The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmI offer an alternative take on marriage. The Five-Year Marriage is the plan my husband and I have followed for our 30+ years together, and it can work for you too. 

What Is A Five-Year Marriage? 

In its simplest terms, a five-year marriage is just what it says on the tin. It’s marriage wherein you and your partner commit not ‘til death do you part, but just for a length of five years. Below that surface level, though, many couples find that the five-year marriage offers them an amount of control and freedom in their marriage that makes for a longer-lasting, more committed relationship than they might have accomplished through traditional marriage.  

Learn To Make Your Marriage A Priority 

The five-year marriage commitment forces married couples to rely on working together through their marriage rather than assuming it will work out on its own. Together, you and your partner draft a contract for your five-year marriage. You decide what your goals are, how you will accomplish those goals, and what expectations you both have for your five-year marriage. You have to commit to working together and prioritizing your marriage in your daily lives. Learn more about how this arrangement could work for you when you read The Five-Year Marriage

The Five-Year Marriage Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact me today

Should A Marriage Be A ‘Forever’ Agreement?

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Are You Really Ready For ‘Forever’? Marriage Advice For Engaged Couples 

Engaged couples, if the ‘forever’ aspect of marriage makes you feel uneasy, you aren’t alone. Forever is a long time – longer than any one person can truly comprehend. What if you could get married without ‘forever’ hanging over your head? My name is Annmarie Kelly, and I’d like to introduce you to the idea of The Five-Year Marriage®. Through The Five-Year Marriage®, I’ve been with my husband for 30+ years, each time agreeing to be married for 5 years. You can learn more about this type of marriage in The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm. 

Why Is Marriage Supposed To Be Forever? 

Traditionally, marriage is said to last “‘til death do you part.” Why? 

Well, historically speaking, the “til death” period wasn’t all that long. For example, in the early 1900s men got married around the age of 25. Life expectancy for men was around 46 years of age. So, a marriage would last around 20 years.  

Today, the “til death” period is much, much longer. Life expectancy has changed drastically, and a couple marrying in their 20s could easily expect to live until their 80s or later! That’s 60 years total together. Nothing stays the same over the course of sixty years – not people, and not the world they live in. 

“Forever” Marriage Encourages Couples To Take Their Relationship For Granted 

Because marriages as “supposed” to last forever, couples rarely actually plan for how to make a marriage work. Married couples often assume it’ll just happen. They love each other and it should just work out because of that love, right? 

Unfortunately, relationships don’t work that way. Relationships take work, communication, and a willingness by both parties to stick to their plans together. That is what The Five-Year Marriage® encourages couples to work for. In your five-year marriage, you and your partner decide together what you expect out of your five-year commitment. You can’t take for granted that you’ll stay together forever because your contact with each other lasts only 5 years. It forces both parties to put the work necessary into making the relationship thrive. If you’re ready to learn how to do that, read The Five-Year Marriage with your partner. 

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage® can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact me today

Can You Fall in Love Again?

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Happy Valentine’s Day!

It’s that time of year for…chocolate! And, oh yes, for celebrating love. Frankly, not everyone in a relationship is happy about doing it. Covid confinement has been rough on many relationships. Last year a woman said to me, “I just can’t look at his face anymore” and recently a woman told me she let her sweetie know, about sex, “I’m done with that.” Neither of those is conducive to cuddling and love talk. However, most likely that’s NOT you, so you have options.

Valentine’s Day Tips for Couples

Even if you and your sweetie have been together for a while, with a little planning, Valentine’s Day can open up a whole new set of possibilities. Here are some suggestions that could help you “feel the love” this Valentine’s Day:

1. Have a Plan!

You and your sweetie have a couple of days, so talk about it together. What do you want to do? Sometimes starting with “if time/money/kids weren’t an issue, how would we spend the day?” Sometimes just talking about that is fun. And maybe it will jog some ideas in your head. Also, the anticipation of something special – for now or for the future – lifts your spirits.

Here are a few practical ideas:

  • …Plan for takeout or to cook a special meal together
  • …Get some hearty appetizers that you can cook at home and plan an appetizer-only extended Happy Hour (instead of dinner)
  • …Is there a special movie that gets you in the mood for romance? A favorite for me is Somewhere in Time. I have it on DVD but I’m pretty sure it’s on Netflix
  • …What about going through old pictures together…of vacations or special trips. Going back over those old memories of your good times together is like greasing the engine of your car – it minimizes friction and allows things to flow more smoothly between you.
  • …Do you need a sitter? Get one for just an hour or two. Then take a long drive together to someplace where you can stop and watch the sunset – but first stop for hot chocolate at the convenience store (Philly locals know Wawa has the best – unless you make your own).

2. Be NICE!

When you’re together a long time, it’s easy to forget to be polite and appreciative. Being treated with respect and getting a thankyou from time-to-time is something everyone wants – and you and your partner are no exception. One woman told me that she started to notice the things her sweetie was doing. They were little niceties that he always did – like making her a cup of tea at night. She realized that she’d gotten so used to those things that she stopped thanking him. One night, as he put her tea on the end table next to her, she looked him in the eyes and said, “You know, I don’t always say it but I appreciate it when you make me tea at night – and it’s how I like it. That makes me feel special.” She said the look on his face almost brought tears to her eyes. When she realized that tiny little courtesy made him feel so good, she started looking for other things. It took him a few weeeks, but eventually he starated doing the same. Those little things reingivorated her marriage!

So…when you’re making your plan, include an agreement to say please, thankyou, excuse me – even if you agree together to focus on being nice just for the day. And don’t forget to add and “I love you” once in a while too!

3. Share a Soft Touch

A soft touch from a loved one can be like gold! Remember when you were “new” together and s/he would brush the hair off your face and you liked it so much? Or how just holding hands made you feel good?

Something as simple as stroking your hand or face, rubbing his/her shoulders, a long hug, or a snuggle in bed – are the small things that say “I still love you.” Soft touches can be both soothing and healing. No, it doesn’t have to lead to sex (unless you want it to happen). 

When was the last time you two held hands?

Making Valentine’s Day special doesn’t need to be elaborate or expensive or over-the-top crazy. In fact, the longer you two are together, the less all those “externals” matter. What most people want in marriage is the love and respect that results in true intimacy – emotional intimacy. That’s how you can fall in love all over again.

You can choose to let love be all around you this weekend. So go for it…and enjoy!

With love  and in victory,
Annmarie

Annmarie Kelly, speaker, author, lifestyle influencer for women over 40

I’m Annmarie Kelly, award-winning author, speaker, and lifestyle expert. I’m also the founder of The Victorious Woman Project, the empowerment resource for midlife women looking to make a change in their life or their relationship. Check it out…it’s full of helpful and inspiring articles, interviews with fabulous women who have been there and done that, and also classes and other tools that will help you find and nourish your inner spark. Oh…and that’s also where you can get one of my inspiring and motivating self-help books. Victorious Woman: Shaping Life’s Challenges into Personal VictoriesVictory by Design, and marriage game-changer, The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm.

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Why Do People Get Married?

The Five-Year Marriage Gives Couples A Fresh Perspective On Marriage 

Marriage isn’t something that should be taken for granted, and yet, all too often couples get wrapped up in planning for a wedding without planning for the marriage to follow. If you want to invest time and energy into making sure you have a successful marriage and not just a successful wedding day, consider The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmMy name is Annemarie KellyThe Five-Year Marriage began as a plan between my husband and me when he proposed to me and I wasn’t comfortable with the idea of a ‘forever’ marriage. 30+ years later, we’re still taking our marriage together five years at a time – and you can do the same. 

Why Do People Get Married? 

Historically, marriage was a necessity for many. It was a way to ensure one’s lineage. For women, it was an acceptable path to financial security. Today, marriage isn’t a necessity in the ways it once was. If it’s not necessary to get married, though, why do people want to get married? 

There are many reasons why one could want to get married, including finances and/or children. For some, marriage is about wanting to be wanted or a desire for intimacy. For others, marriage is a mark of maturity or a sign of their personal success. Those reasons alone, however, are not enough to ensure that a marriage can last. 

What Makes For A Lasting Marriage? 

The Five-Year Marriage isn’t about making a short commitment and then parting ways after. Rather, The Five-Year Marriage is an approach to marriage that doesn’t take your union as a couple for granted. It’s a plan that encourages married couples to renew their commitments, accommodate and acknowledge change, and make decisions that are based on who you are now rather than who you were in the past. The Five-Year Marriage allows both partners in a married couple room for growth – and that is one of the things that can make a marriage last. Learn more about how to make a marriage last in The Five-Year Marriage

The Five-Year Marriage Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact me today

“Old School” Marriage Vs. The Five-Year Marriage®

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Engaged Couples Find Unique Advice For Marriage Plans In The Five-Year Marriage® 

There comes a time in many long-term relationships when a couple asks themselves – is marriage for us? Couples who find themselves questioning the idea of marriage can gain a fresh new perspective on what marriage could be through The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm. I’m Annemarie Kelly, and The Five-Year Marriage is the approach to marriage my husband and I have taken together for the past 30+ years. Each marriage lasts for only 5 years and begins with a contract – an agreement about our personal and joint goals, and how we can accomplish those goals over the course of our marriage. If you and your partner are committed to making your marriage succeed through working together rather than just assuming things will work out, The Five Year Marriage® could be for you. 

Old School Marriage For Old School Reasons 

The purpose of marriage and people’s reasons for marrying have, in some ways, changed throughout history. In some ways, expectations remain the same. For women of the past, marriage was often a ‘must.’ It’s easy to forget that it’s only a relatively recent development that women are able to achieve financial stability on their own. Not only were women not allowed to hold jobs for a long time, but women also had trouble opening bank accounts or lines of credit in their own names. For many women, marriage was a way of survival. Additionally, marriage was how men could ensure a legitimate continuation of their lineage.  

Of course, many people today still choose to get married for these very reasons – financial security and for the sake of having children. The main difference is that it is widely acknowledged these days that marriage is not the only socially acceptable path to those things. Additionally, people can get married for other reasons – including just a desire to be committed to your partner.  

Ask yourself: If the reasons people get married, and the necessity of marriage in relation to one’s survival, can change so much over time – why can’t the way we get married change as well? 

I’m here to tell you that it can. Modern marriage shouldn’t be shackled by old school expectations. Your marriage should suit you and your partner as a couple. The Five Year Marriage® allows you to tailor your marriage to fit your relationship, goals, and expectations – and it allows you to decide to do that again (or not) regularly. Engaged and married couples alike can benefit from the perspective offered in The Five-Year Marriage. Get your copy today and learn if The Five-Year Marriage® is for you! 

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage® can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage® or contact me today

Hey Dear Abby: Don’t Tell Women in Relationships to “Suck it Up.”

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I have always wanted to be his wife,” explained the forty-something woman looking for relationship advice from Dear Abby. She was talking about her live-in boyfriend of five years. She laments, “I want to get married and he knows it. We have discussed it — but every time I bring it up (and I always bring it up, he never does), he has an excuse. He says it’s only a piece of paper, we’ve both already been married, I have some debt, etc…. I am tired of being just “the girlfriend.” She signed her letter “Wants the Piece of Paper.”

In her response, Dear Abby tells her that “if he feels as strongly about you as you do him, he may come around one day, but there are no guarantees. And yes, you will have to ‘suck it up’ if you’re not prepared to leave, and while you’re doing that, make the best of it.”

Women Should Put Up With Being Unhappy? Really, Dear Abby?

The woman is clearly unhappy with things as they are; she feels powerless. Every woman in a relationship knows that sucking it up and making the best of it is what women have been doing for ages – to our detriment. We know how being consistently dissatisfied with your most intimate relationship will eat away at your self-esteem. That lack of self-esteem will permeate every part of your life until you are living a “half-life.”

However, at the same time, her sweetie has a real reason for concern. While most people know that nearly half of all first marriages end in divorce, few know that second marriages only have a 40% chance of success. So if she thinks marriage will seal some permanent deal, or guarantee some happily ever after, she’s wrong.

Based on a 2019 report from Pew Research, 55% of adults think couples are just as well off if they stay together without ever getting married, compared to 45% who think long-term couples ought to get married eventually. And 69% say cohabitation is just fine with or without plans to get married. At the same time, the success rate isn’t any better than with marriage.

The Two Questions to Ask Yourself & Your Partner About Marriage

There are two questions “Wants the Piece of Paper” Lady needs to ask. The first one is why it’s so important to be married. She wants the piece of paper, but why? What is it about being married that matters?

The Pew report found that married couples experience greater trust and higher levels of satisfaction. Is that her reason? Or is it about health insurance, taxes, security, legal issues…or something else? For example, unless there are legal papers in place, couples who live together don’t have first rights if their sweetie gets sick. If her sweetie got sick, his parents and children have more to say about his health care than she does. They can even restrict her visitation rights.

The second question is “why is he so adamant against it?” Was his divorce so devastating that he can’t face the risk of a repeat? Is it about freedom, money and alimony, or is he hiding something – like does he have secret property or a mistress on the side? OR, is the idea of vowing to be together “for better or for worse” until you’re dead terrifying to her sweetie? He’s been through it once. He knows how life changes and couples change. It can get ugly.

So what can they do and be happy?

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers a Better Way to Do “I DO”

What “Wants the Piece of Paper” Lady could suggest is The Five-Year Marriage. She can start with a Curiosity Conversation to find out if he’s open to a short-term (five years), agile marriage. Then she and her sweetie can make agreements about their relationship now – ones they can agree to live with – for just five years. At the end of five years they can continue some of those agreements, renegotiate others, or toss out the ones that aren’t working and replace them with more doable ones….or another five years.

What the The Five-Year Marriage does is help couples sort out their thoughts and feelings and translate them into spoken promises based on clear and written understandings. The Five-Year Marriage contract is NOT a pre-nup – which is usually mostly about money, property, etc. Instead, Five-Year Marriage agreements can include decisions about shared values, shared household responsibilities, budgets, children from the previous relationship, holidays, friends, in-laws, free time, date nights, and any of the things most couples ignore until there’s a problem.

Solve Marriage Problems with Agreements & Family Meetings

In the Five-Year Marriage, couples keep track of themselves and their agreements through family meetings. over time they get better at and more comfortable with accountability, communication skills, problem solving, and negotiation.

At the end of five years, the couple sees where they are, where they’ve been, how they’ve changed and where they want to go – and if they still want to go together.

For Wants the Piece of Paper Lady, maybe after a Five-Year Marriage discussion, she might decide she’s happier just living together. Or her sweetie could feel comfortable enough to take the step toward changing his marital status.

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Either one is better than living stressed and unhappy in “suck it up” mode.

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Is There An Alternative To ‘Til Death Marriage?

Are You Seeking Marriage Advice As A Newlywed? 

If you’re a newlywed seeking marriage advice or even someone who is considering marriage with your partner, pick up The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm by Annmarie KellyThe Five-Year Marriage offers the best marriage advice for newlyweds and couples who are wary about the ‘til death aspect of traditional marriage. Through this plan, you and your partner take equal control over the direction of your marriage while allowing room for growth and change. 

Do You Fear Feeling Stuck In A Marriage? 

If you’re wary of the idea of marriage, you’re far from alone. After all, about 50% of marriages end in divorce. It is intimating to make such a long-term commitment while worrying that it might now work out. Additionally, throughout history women haven’t had much choice in marriage – entering or exiting. For years, if a woman wanted to have financial security, marriage was a must. Today, women are far more capable of being independent. Marriage can feel like you’re being forced to give up that independence, but it doesn’t have to be that way. 

The Five-Year Marriage Makes Both Partners Equally Responsible And Accountable 

What if you didn’t have to promise to be together ‘til death? What if you could approach your marriage in five-year increments and reorganize, rethink, and reset your relationship after those five years are up? With The Five-Year Marriage, you can. 

The Five-Year Marriage plan accounts for the changes that will inevitably occur over your years together as a married couple. At the end of five years, you can rethink how you can continue to be in a relationship that is mutually beneficial for both of you. This plan emphasizes the responsibilities and accountability of each partner in the marriage, and in turn allows both partners to feel safe, secure, and loved. Learn more today about The Five-Year Marriage’s marriage advice can help you as a married couple. 

Annmarie Kelly’s The Five-Year Marriage Offers The Best Marriage Advice 

Annmarie Kelly is a successful author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist. She has made a career out of empowering and helping out women. Now, she offers much-needed advice to married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact Annmarie Kelly

The Fix for the Biggest Marriage Problems

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Getting married soon? Or are you a newlywed? This is the kind of relationship advice millions of divorced or married-but-unhappy women and men wish they had gotten sooner, when they were single.

If you’re in a committed relationship, and marriage is on the horizon (or you got married in the last couple of years), this is a heads-up. A recent article in Brides Magazine got my attention. The article lists the 6 biggest problems in marriage:

  • Disinterest,
  • spending habits,
  • jealousy,
  • going in different directions,
  • intimacy, and
  • boredom.

From my experience, I can agree – it’s a good list.

Are you experiencing them yet? If you haven’t yet, you will! It’s inevitable…but not hopeless, if…before you that walk down the aisle, you take some time together to think things out and make some agreements. What about? Read on…

Are these the same relationship problem?

Of the six problems listed, three of them – disinterest, boredom, and different directions – are in the same family. That means they could have the same root cause: a lack of caring and/or excessive self-interest or selfishness. Think about it. If you are into something and I’m not part of it, why not? Do I see it as “that’s your thing, not mine” and disengage? Or do you just not want me to be involved in things like your career, hobbies, friends?

Either way, eventually one of us is going to feel hurt, then I’ll get angry or bored – first with what you do, and then with you. Next I’m going to feel resentful. After a while I’m going to think “screw you” and find something that makes me happy. I decide to “do my own thing” – without you. Before either of us realizes it, we’ll have our own lives and, if we stay together, our common ground for conversation will be the kids. We’ll only get together as a couple for dinner with friends, holidays, weddings, and funerals.  

It happens. A lot! You already know at least one married couple like that, right? Maybe that’s what you saw your parents do when you were growing up. Or are watching it happen now to your best friend.

OK, you think, “that’s about them but it won’t be me.” True…for now. Today it seems like you won’t ever lose interest in your sweetie because s/he is so smart or funny or whatever. And you love football or soccer or dancing or music too (or whatever s/he is passionate about), so no problem…right? Wrong!

A few years from now, when life invades your love pod and you have a thousand things on your plate with four of them pressing hard on your brain, you won’ t give a flip about the latest news related to that passion. In fact, just hearing about it will set you off and could easily result in an argument and some icy feelings.

You don’t want that to happen, right? It doesn’t have to, but it’s up to you and your partner.

What Can You Do About Your Marriage Problems Today?

Your marriage is a partnership. Like all good partnerships, both partners look at the known problems and figure out how to handle them before they happen. It helps you in the short-term because you’re creating a pattern for problem-solving between you. Down the road, when unknown challenges come you way, you’ll already have a format for solving them and some history of success.

Figuring how to handle a problem in advance is a behavioral technique you are probably already familiar with from Weight Watchers. What WW tells you is to recognize what you crave (like chocolate or pizza) and, being honest, know you’ll crave it at some point. So, before you get into trouble, figure out a good alternative to that thing, e.g. a WW treat or low-cal pizza. Then, when you get that craving, you already know what to do and won’t sabotage yourself. The same with emotions. If you know you always eat when you are angry or depressed, WW tells you to recognize the “trigger” or warning sign and set up a system of what to do instead of eating that hot fudge sundae.

Of course, your marriage isn’t WW but the concept is the same. You look at a well-known issue (like any of the 6 mentioned here) and figure out a solution. You ask “how will we know it’s happening?” or “what are some things we can do to prevent that from happening?” And, like WW, you have regular meetings – Family Meetings – where you step away from your daily routine and focus on your relationship.

Big Benefits for Making Relationship Agreements

What you two are figuring out is how to create equality in your partnership. When you start early – while living together, during your engagement, or even early in your marriage – you get into a healthy pattern. You do it before anger, resentment and hurt feelings dominate, or before you think you’re being ignored or disrespected.

In addition, and this is one of the beauties of the Five-Year Marriage, you already know that things in life and in your relationship, are going to change. So you talk about them in advance and start figuring out your how-to-do-it and create a set of agreements now. Over time, some of those things will naturally need adjustments as jobs change, children come along, money problems creep in and more. As you live your life, and your marriage, you can make conscious adjustments along the way In The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm there is a whole chapter dedicated to things you need to talk about together, including lifestyle preferences and your agreements. Taking time to discuss those things is crucial to the long-term happiness of your relationship. Admittedly, planning your marriage is not as much fun as planning your wedding, but it’s way better than planning a divorce.

The Agile Marriage

Marriage is like life (with or without a partner). It’s a series of challenges, and a lot of curve balls get thrown your way. The secret of success for your Five-Year Marriage, for any marriage, is that you two regularly review your agreements. You decide what’s working and what’s not. You can either keep them as is, renegotiate parts that aren’t working, or ditch the bad ones and make new ones. You aren’t stuck “’til death” with any of them. And, because you’ve been working together, it isn’t scary or uncomfortable.

The difference can be profound, The choice is yours.

A Marriage Plan With Room For Growth And Change

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Engaged Couples: Consider The Five-Year Marriage’s Marriage Advice 

For couples who are considering marriage and newlyweds looking for marriage advice, consider reading Annmarie Kelly’s The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmThis unique approach to marriage is a game-changer for couples who want to leave room for growth and change in their relationship. The Five-Year Marriage has allowed Annmarie Kelly and her husband to experience growth alongside one another as a couple for the last 30 years by taking it just five years at a time. Now you can do the same! 

Tips For Newlyweds: Expect Change And Allow Growth 

Nothing and no one ever remains the same, which is why, for many people, a ‘til death marriage can seem so intimidating. The truth is, that the ‘til death idea of marriage is outdated. While it might have made sense about 100 years ago when life expectancy was much lower and you could expect to be dead by 50 or 60, it doesn’t make much sense now. 

The Five-Year Marriage is a marriage that allows – and expects – changes. Every five years, you and your partner approach your marriage with fresh eyes. You have the opportunity to rethink your relationship and consider your priorities. This plan allows you and your partner the room to grow and become your best selves together while experience safety, love, and mutual respect and trust. 

The Five-Year Marriage is the key to marrying your partner with clear expectations, understanding, and respect for one another. It is perhaps the most useful piece of advice for marriage that newlyweds or couples considering marriage. Don’t feel stuck in your marriage by succumbing to the pressure to do things the way they’ve always been done. Choose the marriage style that allows both you and your partner a level of independence and safety that will encourage you to feel closer and more intimate. 

Annmarie Kelly’s The Five-Year Marriage Offers The Best Marriage Advice 

Annmarie Kelly is a successful author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist. She has made a career out of empowering and helping out women. Now, she offers much-needed advice to married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact Annmarie Kelly

The Five-Year Marriage: Marriage Advice For New Couples

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How Can You Know If Marriage Is Really For You? 

If you’ve ever wondered if marriage is “for you,” you’re not alone. Making a marriage work is no easy task and, unfortunately, it’s something that many couples fail to accomplish. What if there were a more adaptive way to approach marriage? What if being married didn’t mean making the commitment all at once to be together ‘til death do you part? Annmarie Kelly’s The Five-Year Marriage plan could be for you! New couples, – you can learn about how The Five-Year Marriage could be the best marriage advice you’ve ever received. 

Marriage Advice That Shifts The Marriage Paradigm 

If traditional marriage makes you feel uneasy or if you worry that marriage could lead to feeling “stuck forever,” The Five-Year Marriage could be just what you need. Women especially may be worried about feeling stuck in a marriage that takes a turn for the worse. Historically, women have had very little choice in how and if they marry and if they could leave that marriage. 

The Five-Year Marriage Promotes Equal Partnership 

By following the plan of The Five-Year Marriage, married couples allow themselves to reconsider and renegotiate the terms of their marriage every five years. This renegotiation acknowledges the changes that have happened in the previous five years. By acknowledging and making room for growth in this way, married couples can enjoy an equal partnership with true intimacy. Annmarie Kelly herself has used this method to build a long-lasting relationship with her husband of 30+ years. They’ve taken the last 3 decades on together just five years at a time – and now so can you! 

Annmarie Kelly’s The Five-Year Marriage Offers The Best Marriage Advice 

Annmarie Kelly is a successful author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist. She has made a career out of empowering and helping out women. Now, she offers much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact Annmarie Kelly