Rekindle the Romance in your Relationship!

Ignite the Spark with the
31-Day Romance Challenge!

Are you missing the PASSION and INTIMACY your relationship used to have? Want to get them back? 

It’s true, the pheromones might have subsided, but you can tickle that love-scent back into action and get those passion fires sparking again!

Yes! You really can do it!

It doesn’t take some odd cologne or a new sex toy – though you might want those later… BUT before you bring those into your bedroom, FIRST bring back the romance and the feelings that go with it.

How? With the 31-Day Romance Challenge!

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I designed the 31-Day Romance Month Challenge especially for August’s Romance Awareness Month to help YOU to get a little sparkle and a lot of fire back into YOUR relationship, quickly and easily! It’s full of fast & thoughtful gestures of love and simple activities – one small step each day – that you can do for, or with, your sweetie!

The romance is in remembering the little things you said, thought, and felt when you first started dating that helped you fall in love in the first place. The “challenge” is dedicating 15-20 minutes each day to focus on your relationship. 

You can download it HERE.

Do the Romance Challenges & Get Entered into a Prize Drawing!

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Because I know you want that “in love” feeling again but also know how hard it is to fit even small efforts into your already busy schedule, I’m sweetening the deal with a little motivation!

During August, each time you post something about your romance challenge efforts on social media (Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, or Pinterest) and tag my account (so I can give you credit!) you’ll be entered into a drawing for The Fabulous Five-Year Marriage® Gift Pack: a personally autographed copy of The Five-Year Marriage® (so you can keep the good feelings going), a beautiful journal (to keep track of your romance), a pocket notebook (for those little love-reminders), a pen to record them with, and a $30 gift card to Panera (where you and your sweetie can go for some quiet talk). It’s everything you need to get busy leveling up your relationship romance!

A lot of couples struggled over the last year+ in lockdown together. Even the most healthy relationships felt a strain at times. Now that the world has begun to open up and started returning to ‘normal’, we have a great opportunity to be intentional about what our ‘normal’ looks like. One of the things couples ask me about is how to spark up a little more romance in their relationships. Right now is the perfect time to make a conscious decision to make space for romance – and it’s easier than you think with the 31-Day Romance Challenge!!

WAIT! Do You Feel Like Romance isn’t in the Cards for your Relationship Right Now? THEN YOU NEED TO READ THIS:

There are a lot of reasons why relationships wither or fail altogether, and it all starts with CHANGE. It could be a career change, family health issues, financial difficulties, unemployment or simply feeling like you’ve changed but your partner hasn’t, that your partner just doesn’t ‘get you‘ anymore. It could be any of the million different struggles couples face these days and there’s almost never anything you can do to prevent change. And that’s just it – you don’t need to fight change itself anyways.

The way back starts with a CHANGE – and the 31-Day Romance Challenge could be just the thing to get you two back on the same page. It may not solve the problems, but it could be just what you need to remind you why you want to solve them.

And, Once You’re “There”, Consider a “Reset” with the Five-Year Marriage®

The good news is that you and your partner CAN LEARN how to solve problems and adjust to life’s changes together! I explain, step by step, how to do exactly that in my book The Five-Year Marriage® – grab a copy from Amazon to learn how, or if you prefer a more guided approach, I’m offering the Beginners Guide to Your Brilliant Bad-Ass Marriage in the fall. You can also check out the 30-Day Relationship Reset Class that is currently live on Thinkific.

Positive Change Starts with a Single Step in the Right Direction

Check out the 31-Day Romance Challenge. Download it now and have a look through the various fun tasks and gestures you can do RIGHT now to take a step in a positive direction with your relationship.

You’re not Stuck, You CAN Make a Change!

I wholeheartedly believe that, and it’s my life’s passion to help you along your journey to Victory!

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The Five-Year Marriage®: Taking Responsibility For Yourself

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Young Engaged Couples Find Valuable Marriage Advice In The Five-Year Marriage® 

Are you looking for marriage advice before you make one of the biggest commitments of your life? Do you find yourself wondering if marriage can really last forever? Consider reading The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmI’m Annmarie Kelly and I too was unsure about the “forever” part of traditional marriage. The solution that my spouse and I developed is The Five-Year Marriage®. Engaged couples can read The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm and learn about how they can choose to take their married life five years at a time. 

The Five-Year Marriage® Requires Effort And Commitment From Both Partners 

The Five-Year Marriage® is not a type of agreement for those who aren’t prepared to work together as a couple and to prioritize their union. Working to make sure your union works also means working on yourself. One of the qualities that are important for any potential five-year marriage partner to have is personal responsibility. 

When looking for a potential five-year partner, ask yourself – do they take responsibility for what’s happened in their life? Or, do they instead blame outward forces when things don’t go their way? Sure, everyone has bad days now and then. Occasionally, things happen that are out of your control. However, if someone consistently fails to take responsibility for the things happening in their life and makes no effort to plan better for the future, that’s a problem. This is a pattern they will bring into any union they have. 

How can you recognize personal responsibility in not only your partner but yourself as well? How can a lack of personal responsibility affect your marriage? Couples will learn about these factors and more when they read The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to singles, engaged, and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage® can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage® or contact me today

The Five-Year Marriage®: Is Your Partner Dependable?

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Looking For Marriage Advice Before The Big Day? 

The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm offers young engaged couples advice on marriage that differs greatly from the ideas of traditional marriage. When you read The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigmyou’ll find how you and your partner could choose to take your marriage just five years at a time. I’m Annmarie Kelly and I, like many young women and engage couples today, was looking for a different approach to marriage when my spouse originally proposed to me. In The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm, I tell couples about the plan for marriage that has worked for my spouse and me for the past 30+ years. 

Is Your Partner Dependable? 

One thing you should ask yourself when seeking out a potential five-year partner is – are they dependable? Dependability, on both a physical and emotional level, is a key factor in who could make for a good five-year partner.  

On a physical level, young couples should be able to rely on one another for financial stability, for staying on top of household chores, for picking up groceries, etc. Both partners should be prepared to do the work that is necessary to maintain everyday life. On an emotional level, dependability is about being there for your partner. Couples should also have a sense of security about how their other half feels and thinks about them. If your partner leaves you questioning their feelings and level of commitment, then a serious commitment such as The Five-Year Marriage® likely isn’t going to work. 

What are some signs that your partner isn’t dependable? How can you know if you, yourself, offer the dependability your partner needs? Couples can read about this and more in The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to singles, engaged, and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage® can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage® or contact me today

Five-Year Marriage® featured on the Growth Marriage Podcast!

I had a great time chatting with Nate Bagley on the Growth Marriage Podcast! We discussed how any why I reinvented the concept of traditional marriage and came up with the Five-Year Marriage®. We talk about this concept in detail and why the idea of reassessing and recommitting not only keeps partners from growing lazy, it keeps each person engaged and invested in the relationship. That regular investment results in a relationship that is more connected and more intimate than traditional marriage.

Have a listen now!

Learn more about Nate & Growth Marriage. 

Pre-Marital Tips for Covid Couples

Covid weddings. Scaled-down, outdoors, streaming. They’re a sign of the times. That’s why the recent New York Times headline “Their Focus Was on the Marriage, Not the Wedding” got my attention. The article detailed the story of a Texas couple, Carmen and Aaron, who met on Bumble, fell in love, moved in together, and then decided to get married. And, like so many pandemic couples, instead of putting off the wedding, they decided to go for an outdoor ceremony, with most loved ones attending via zoom.

Like most couples, at first they were immersed in the planning. Then, just a few weeks before the wedding, a crazy Texas storm threw their state into an odd deep freeze and thousands – including Carmen and Aaron – lost electricity. As a result, they had no water or power and, in the unexpected cold, a pipe burst and covered 60% of their home in water.

Overnight, their life became a big mess, but it turns out, a blessing in disguise. The bride later told the Times, “My focus became less on the outward appearance of a wedding and more on beginning our marriage.” The groom agreed and said, “That is what matters the most.” Carmen is wise, Aaron is correct.

Covid’s Gift to Newlyweds

Covdi restrictions created huge changes everywhere, and wedding venues are no exception. However, not all of them are bad or disappointments.

In “normal” times, most brides and grooms spend a couple of years and thousands of dollars planning the one-day event that someone said they would remember forever. That’s a ton of pressure. As a result, when the wedding becomes the focus, the couple spends very little time, if any, planning the marriage they say they want to last “til death do they part”. Makes no sense, right?

Yes, they talk about where they’ll live, or, if they are already living together, will live next. And maybe they gush about being soulmates and talk about their love for each other and have some big dreams. It’s not enough.

When the crap hits the fan, the couple doesn’t know what to do about it. They argue, resentment results, problems aren’t solved, and then they get into a “rinse and repeat” pattern. The magic of make-up sex lasts just so long…and, little by little, loves dies.

In pandemic times, with couples having fewer wedding distractions, they have more bandwidth to talk about life after they say “I Do”. However, like being alone in a desert, many wonder, “what should we be talking about now?”

There are 10 Questions that Matter for the Long Term Success of your Relationship

No need to wonder what to be talking about now…just download my Top Ten Questions That Matter Now and start the conversation.

Click HERE to Download: Top Ten Questions

What To Expect

As you and your sweetie work through these, your answers will give you a better picture of who you’re marrying and what your life together will look like – in real life, not wedding fantasies. Also, they will likely lead to other rich discussions. Choose that opportunity to get better together.

Actually, just the exercise of talking about your future will give you practice in communicating with each other. You’ll get to see what it’s like to be on the same page of one issue, and also what not being on the same page is like. That alone is worth the time and energy it’ll take to work through these – and what you learn will be a million times better, and longer lasting, than what you’ll get from a good DJ, great-tasting wedding cake, and purple napkins at a big wedding.

For more questions and tips about marriage including how to shift the marriage paradigm in your favor, you’ll find them in my book, available in paperback and Kinlde on Amazon, The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm. 

The Five-Year Marriage®: Will My Partner Always Agree With Me?

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The Five-Year Marriage® Offers Unique Marriage Advice For Engaged Couples 

Even engaged couples who are certain they want to be together may not be so certain about the traditional approach to marriage. After all, forever is a long time, especially if you’re engaged at a young age. Can you really see yourself feeling and thinking the same ways in a decade? How about two or three decades, or even more? Engaged couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage should read The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmI’m Annmarie Kelly, author of The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm and engaged couples, newly married couples, as well as single women and men interested in a new approach to marriage will find life-changing marriage advice in my book. 

Looking For Your Five-Year Partner: Should A Potential Partner Always Agree With You? 

When you’re searching for a partner for your Five-Year Marriage®, even though it isn’t a “forever” commitment, you want to be sure that you and your partner are compatible. After all, although the commitment isn’t forever, The Five-Year Marriage® still requires both partners to work together. Does that mean your partner should always agree with you? Of course not. After all, there’s likely no two people on the planet who agree all the time on everything. Additionally, sometimes people find themselves attracted to someone who is quite different from them. 

Engaged Couples Should Look For Chemistry And Support From One Another 

What’s more important than agreeing with your partner on every little thing is for the two of you to have emotional chemistry and to support one another. Do your values align? Do your differences complement each other? Can you turn to your partner when things aren’t going well, knowing that will have their support? These are some of the things that are crucial to look for in a potential five-year partner. Couples, or single people interesting in looking for their five-year partner, can learn more about what to look for in a partner in The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to singles, engaged, and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage® can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage® or contact me today

Best Marriage Advice He Ever Got

When Ronald Roache got married, his new father-in-law gave him and his new bride, Yoshiko, some marriage advice. “Marriage is a business,” he told them. “part love and part business. You can’t go into the store and say, ‘I love my husband, now give me groceries.’”

At the time, Ronald and Yoshiko did what most young couples would do, they didn’t pay a lot of attention. However, it didn’t take long to find the truth in the older man’s words. Today, sixty-four years later, he says was the best piece of relationship advice he ever got.

Like most couples, when the two started out, they loved each other. Though they were mixed race (he’s black and she’s Asian), they presumed love would somehow conquer all. It wasn’t that easy.

In addition to making all the usual adjustments and decisions about housing, children, budgets, etc, their union caused its own problems. Back in the 1950’s, mixed-race marriages were way less accepted than today (if at all – and, in some places, were illegal). So the couple faced lots of social challenges right from the start. Living their life together as a “part love, part business” partnership made the difference.

Can Lovers Be Partners?

Most couples getting married today could use the same advice. Like  Ronald and Yoshiko, they marry because they love each other. However, as soon as the ring is on her finger, the task of figuring out what their soon-to-be partnership means gets back-burnered. Instead, hours and hours are spent over many months planning the wedding – an event that’s over in a day. Little time is spent planning the marriage – which, on their wedding day, the couple vow will last a lifetime.

The thing is, once the party is over and the wedding dress is packed away, real life happens. Bills come due, jobs change, children are born, houses are bought, mortgages need to be paid, cars break down, someone gets sick – all normal life changes. Normal, but they create stress and tension in a relationship. Then, if it’s normal, how do you manage those normal stresses – and still keep the love alive?

That’s what Ronald’s father-in-law was talking about in his simple but powerful advice. He knew how hard marriage is in the best circumstances. He also knew, without the business side in place, keeping the love burning when there are piles of loveless crap heaped on top of it – that’s an almost-impossible dream.

Creating and managing a good partnership is key to dealing with the “stuff” of life, love, and marriage. That’s what makes it the cornerstone of The Five-Year Marriage®.

Is it Really Love?

When people first learn about the Five-Year Marriage®, a common reaction is “it seems more like business than love.” Not true.

In the first place, why would you be thinking about marriage without love? Even in platonic marriages, where there’s no romance or sex involved, the partners have some kind of love for each other. So the love part is a given.

Next, ask anyone who is divorced about the love. When a marriage ends, even when it ends amicably, all that love is overshadowed by the business of who gets what. Many divorced men and women have admitted that, if they had worked together in their marriage the way they worked to get divorced, they might still be married. In fact, studies show that 6% of couples get back together and, when they do, 72% of the remarriages work. That’s likely because the couple learned (1) that love isn’t enough and (2) there’s value to being partners. Partners articulate their shared values and goals, talk about problems and work out solutions, make written agreements, share responsibilities equitably, and get outside help when they need it.

For most couples, the Five-Year Marriage® model has them doing more business upfront, with regular check-ins, and periodic (five-year) resets. That work doesn’t only build the partnership, it also fosters more trust, respect, and emotional safety – all the stuff real love is.

Marriage Tips for a Healthy Marriage with Partnership

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help empower many women to live their best life. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to singles, engaged, and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage – help and tips that empower both partners to live their best marriage..and best life together. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage® can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage® or contact me today.

The Five-Year Marriage®, Your Partner, And Chemistry

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers Couples Fresh Marriage Advice 

The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm offers couples who are considering a more serious commitment an alternative to traditional marriage. The Five-Year Marriage can shift your perspective about marriage, help you think beyond the wedding day, and consider the importance of finding a compatible partner. I’m Annmarie Kelly, author of The Five-Year Marriage. My husband and I have built a life together for 30+ years, taking each of our marriages only five years at a time. Now, you can too. 

The Importance Of Chemistry In A Relationship 

All couples have heard before that in order to have a successful relationship there has to be some level of chemistry between both partners. What exactly is chemistry, through? Why is it important to a long-term relationship? 

Most commonly, couples think of two kinds of chemistry that come with relationships. there’s romantic chemistry and sexual chemistry. Romantic chemistry is what leads to the “butterflies in the stomach” feeling that many find so thrilling at the beginning of a relationship. Sexual chemistry, of course, is what leads couples to feel that draw of magnetism and “heat” for one another. While both of these forms of chemistry are important in a relationship, neither are the attraction, or chemistry, that is most important. After all, both of these feelings can fade with time. You simply can’t build a lasting relationship on something so temporary. 

Find A Partner You Have Emotional Chemistry With 

Emotional chemistry is a powerful feeling. It’s a sensation that is hard to put in definite terms. When you have good emotional chemistry with someone, you “just click.” You feel like you’re on the same wavelength. This attraction and connection is essential for a Five-Year Partner. Learn more about finding emotional chemistry in The Five-Year Marriage. 

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage® or contact me today

What Are Good Qualities For A Five-Year Partner?

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Looking For The Right Partner For The Five-Year Marriage® 

Although some of the expectations and practices around marriage have changed over the years, couples who are together in the long term are still largely expected to formalize their relationship through marriage. Some engaged couples find, however, that the “forever” style commitment of traditional commitment isn’t for them. An alternative can be found in The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmI’m Annmarie Kelly, and I welcome engaged couples to consider the benefits of The Five-Year Marriage® 

Finding The Right Partner Is The Key To A Solid Relationship 

No matter your reasons for getting married – whether for love, finances, or children – the relationship is made much easier with both partners are compatible with one another. When you are interested in a Five-Year Marriage® style of commitment, you also have to make sure that your partner is suited to The Five-Year Marriage® plan.  

What Qualities Make For A Good Five-Year Partner? 

In The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm, I detail qualities that can make someone a potential candidate for a Five-Year Marriage®. There are, of course, many metrics by which you might measure how well-suited a partner is for you. However, over the years I have identified seven “must haves” for partners who want toThe Five-Year Marriage®. I call thee these“must haves” The Solid Seven. They offer you fast feedback on potential partners, even early on in your relationship. To learn more about The Solid Seven, read The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Singles, Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact me today