7 Signs Your Marriage Needs a Reset

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Unhappy couple arguing on the couch at home in the living room

 Every relationship hits rough patches—but how do you know when it’s time to hit the reset button? In traditional marriages, we’re taught to “ride it out,” but ignoring the signs can lead to resentment, distance and divorce.

With The Five-Year Marriage®, you don’t wait until everything breaks down. You reset before the breakdown.

Here are 7 signs it might be time to reimagine your relationship:

  1. You’re Having the Same Argument Over and Over
    If it feels like you’re stuck on repeat, something deeper likely needs attention—not just another apology.
  2. Your Communication Is All Logistics
    Bills. Schedules. Kids. If your conversations revolve around calendars instead of connection, it’s time to pause and reconnect.
  3. Intimacy Feels Like a Chore
    Whether physical or emotional, intimacy should feel like a gift—not another box to check.
  4. You Avoid Hard Conversations
    When silence feels safer than honesty, your foundation is cracking. The Five-Year Marriage® builds in space for safe, structured dialogue.
  5. You Feel Like Roommates, Not Partners
    Comfort is good. Complacency? Not so much.
  6. You’re Not the Same People You Were 5 Years Ago
    Guess what? That’s normal! The question is: has your marriage grown with you?
  7. You Secretly Daydream About a Do-Over
    You don’t want a new partner—you want a new partnership. That’s what a Five-Year Marriage® offers.

Ready to Reset?

A Five-Year Marriage® isn’t about ending your marriage. It’s about evolving it—with intention, honesty, and love.

Get the guide that helps couples grow stronger.

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What is the Five-Year Marriage®?

Created by Annmarie Kelly, the Five-Year Marriage® is a concept of restructuring marriage agreements every five years to take into consideration external and internal changes happening to each person in the relationship. This periodic assessment of each person’s happiness, fulfillment, obligations and goals creates a safe space for each person to grow and change, together. The result is a relationship that grows stronger and more intimate over time. This collection of articles is a dep dive into the  different concepts proposed in the book, The Five-Year Marriage® and deserve a space for additional exploration and discussion.

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