It’s easy to believe that great relationships should just “happen naturally.” We’re sold stories where passion never fades, partners always know exactly what the other needs, and love stays effortless forever.
But here’s the truth: real, lasting romance doesn’t happen by accident — it happens on purpose.
The Myth of Spontaneous Romance
Movies and novels glorify surprise gestures and grand declarations, but in real life, couples need more than spur-of-the-moment love. Spontaneity is fun, but it can’t stand on its own. Without everyday intention, feelings of intimacy, trust, joy and love start to fade away.
Why Intentional Love Matters
It Keeps Connection Alive — Even on Busy Days
Being deliberate means you find small ways to say “I see you” — no matter how chaotic life gets.
It Puts Both Partners in the Driver’s Seat
Intentional love means you don’t wait for your partner to read your mind. You both get to speak up, ask, and create the connection you crave.
It Builds Trust & Security
When you make love intentional, your partner never has to wonder, “Do they still care?” The answer is shown daily in small, loving actions.
How to Make Love Intentional — Starting Now
Set aside time to reconnect each week.
Share small gestures of appreciation — notes, texts, or a quick hug.
Talk about what romance means to each of you now — not just what it meant when you got married.
Ready for More?
If you love the idea of making romance intentional every single day, you’ll love what’s coming: our August Romance Challenge launches August 1 for Romance Awareness Month!
And if you’re ready for deeper tools and strategies, The Five-Year Marriage® will show you how to build a relationship that grows stronger year after year.
