Blurred Boundaries

In Victorious Woman I talk about the Savvy Six Skills every woman needs to develop to be victoriously successful. Since writing about those six skills, I’ve noticed that many women don’t readily connect the Savvy Six with their own personal glass ceiling. So I developed the Dirty Dozen – the 12 ways women sabotage themselves.

One of the Dirty Dozen is Blurred Boundaries.

Too often we don’t even know for ourselves what our boundaries are until someone crosses one of them. Then we get hurt, angry and resentful.
But how angry can we get at others if we aren’t clear about our boundaries ourselves. And even when we know what they are, too many times we don’t know how to tell others.
Take a moment to think about your boundaries. In the Victorious Woman book, I explain the  “formula” for telling someone that you don’t like what they’ve done. I also introduce you to “stop-think-go” which helps you avoid getting roped into doing things you don’t want to do.
Here are a few more things you can do to start sorting out your boundaries, and develop the confidence to enforce them:

1. Join the Private Facebook Group: Victory Chicks
Besides being a great place to field questions and discuss issues with supportive, like-minded women, I post coupons for my upcoming workshops!

2. Join the Victorious Woman Mailing List

You’ll get Victory Tips and Exclusive coupons right to your inbox!


3. Join the next Savvy Sizzle Master Class! 

Get your goals – and your life – on track so you can BE MORE of who you really are, DO MORE that makes you happy and fulfilled, and HAVE MORE of the life you’ll love living EVERY DAY. That’s exactly what you’re going to do once you dive into in this training.

4. Get a copy of the Victorious Woman Book or the Victory By Design e-book!

There are chapters & worksheets dedicated to unearthing and enforcing your boundaries.

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