Are You Kidding Me?

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“Long before it’s time for Mom to help plan the wedding dress or Dad to give the bride away, it’s time to be raising a future wife in your home. Because wives aren’t born – they are made.” That was the warning author Constance J. Foster gave mothers. And in her 1956 Parents Magazine article “Raise Your Daughter to Be a Wife,” Eve Nelson told mothers to get started early. She wrote, “It’s up to you to create a female aura before she can even say ‘goo’.”

So, good mothers schooled their daughters in cooking, cleaning, having kids, and being a stay-at-home mom. Fathers let their daughters know their main function was to make everything good, happy, and respectful for her spouse, the wage-earner. There was no sense spending thousands of dollars for a college tuition on a girl who was only going to be changing diapers. A better use of his money was for “finishing” school. Was that to finish off the job of learning marital servility? 

The adage was “be an angel in the kitchen, a lady in the living room, and a devil in the bedroom.” Good cooking, good manners and good in bed. That was the recipe for happiness – his – not hers. Sexually, a women was told to submit to sex, whether she wanted it or not. There was no feminism or #METOO anything. In fact, she wasn’t even supposed to enjoy sex (still a popular opinion in cultures that support female genital mutilation). Sex was important in the marriage so she could keep her husband – the breadwinner – happy. The idea of marital rape was foreign, because sex was a man’s prerogative and right. She was little more than a depository. And, if a man cheated, it had to be her fault.

Abuse was often part of the package – except that it wasn’t considered abuse to hit or even spank a wife as a form of discipline. Men believed that sometimes a wife needed it just to “keep her in line.” While some religions still believe that, most people consider spanking as discipline to be domestic abuse.

Even though all that was going on in most households, a significant swing in woman-power had begun.  During WWII, when men were at war, women were able to get jobs – and even managerial positions – in places they previously couldn’t – aircraft plants, shipyards, manufacturing.  Most women who worked in those places liked it – and wanted to keep working. They resented being expected to go back to being housewives when the soldiers came home.

However, those women did it…but the genie was already out of the bottle. That resentment fueled the rebellion that later became “women’s liberation” and then the first and second waves of feminism. Though the old-style marriage that allowed a man to be in charge without question, and a woman to shut-up and do what was expected, was the norm, the wheels of change were cranking.

While Foster and Nelson were spewing old school garbage in magazines and books, many women started noticing that Harriet was smarter than Ozzie, women like Lucy and Ethel weren’t ditsy broads, and Ralph Kramden would have fallen apart if it wasn’t for Alice being the brains in the partnership. Then all hell broke loose. Books like The Feminine Mystique and Fear of Flying became bestsellers. The National Organization of Women (NOW) was formed, News-capturing events like Billie Jean King’s “Battle of the Sexes” was the talk of the world. Suddenly feminism took center stage and, when it did, opened doors for many women.

Since then women have grown up and grown into their own power. They own their own homes, have advanced degrees, executive positions, thriving businesses and, more and more, sit on the boards of major corporations. There are still so many issues for women, but the worst of them are history, or at least being addressed with movements like #MeToo.

That’s why The Five-Year Marriage® is so important for today’s empowered woman.   The old-fashioned marriage of yesteryear is simply obsolete. The empowered woman needs a marital structure that honors her needs and desires.

The Five-Year Marriage® does that by shifting the old paradigm, and giving a woman both her voice AND the power to go with that voice. And, at the same time, it honors the men who join them in as an equal in partnership. The marital partnership is key to The Five-Year Marriage® where both partners can expect The Solid Seven of the Five-Year Marriage®:

  • Emotional Chemistry
  • Ongoing Dialogue
  • Dependability
  • Personal Responsibility
  • Freedom
  • Fairness
  • Mutual Respect

The Solid Seven set reasonable relationship parameters for both partners. And, within those parameters, couples build the kind of trust that leads to true intimacy in a marriage. In the end, intimacy is what the empowered woman – and the man who loves her – really wants.

You can read more about the Solid Seven and how to create your own Five-Year Marriage® the book (available on amazon.com): The Five-Year Marriage®: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm

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What if you had another 50 years to live?

What’s YOUR What If???


WHAT IF.… you knew you would live to be 120 years old, and in good health – or mostly good health – almost to the end? What would change for you? It’s an important question to be asking NOW, before holiday fun distracts you, so you can get ready for 2019 and start the New Year as your strongest and most empowered Victory Chick.

Start a ‘What if…’ List

I started my “What if…” list over the summer while Joseph and I were negotiating our new marriage agreements for our new Five-Year Marriage™. And I’m excited!

Your life could change at any moment

And, yes, I don’t live in la-la land. Anything can happen. The truth is that tomorrow isn’t promised to anyone. But you know what? Tomorrow wasn’t promised to you when you were a teenager, or when you turned 21, or 40, 50, or 60. One of my close girlfriends died in a house fire at 23. Joseph’s best friend, the best man at our first wedding, died of a heart attack the month after turning 50. Yes, you don’t know what can happen. It could be bad…but, also, it could be really good!!

You’re life could also extend for MANY more years than you expect

Think about it…between modern science and replacement parts, maybe you WILL live to be in good health until you are 120. And, if you do, you really don’t want to look back on this time of your life and say, “I wish I had…” That’s what all the women in the retirement community told a psychologist Friday Happy Hour guest. They said that, if they knew they were going to live as long as they had (80’s & 90’s), they would have started new projects and done other things.

How to prevent regrets in old age

Here is how you can empower yourself to live a “no regrets” life:

  1. Get Started. The easiest way to start is to ask yourself, “I wish I had…” Some of the answers I’ve heard my clients say include things like, I wish I…
    • Started my own business
    • Opened a bridal salon
    • Gotten a divorce
    • Traveled more
    • Hadn’t stopped playing the guitar and singing
    • Learned another language
    • Written down the family history for my grand kids
    • Written my memoir
    • Focused on art (I was really good at that when I was a kid). I wish I took classes then
    • Hadn’t given up crafting pottery
    • had more meaningful things in my life so that my kids wouldn’t always presume I’m always available for babysitting and, if I say “no,” make me feel guilty.
    • Your turn: Complete this sentence: “I wish I had ____________________”
  2. Play! 
    • Complete this sentence: “I just found out that I’m going to live to be 120 years old! Now I know I have time to _______________________”
      • Write everything down that comes into your head.
      • FYI: do this over a few days or a week. Your mind may need some time to know it “has permission” to think outside the box.
    • Have some fun with this! 
  3. Take Action
    OK, look at what you wrote with the belief that you’ll live to 120. You know it’s not too late yet. What can you do about that wish now?When you allow yourself to be empowered, you can do anything. Here are some ideas, both active and passive. You can…
    • Take a class at your local community college
    • Volunteer in the field
    • Meet and talk to some people who are doing it. If you don’t know anyone, you can go to a meeting of a professional association or a group or meetup focused on that special interest
    • Read books on that subject
    • Look for people online who do it and read their blogs
      • There is a wealth of knowledge online. You can listen to TedTalks, podcasts, and virtual summits or get signup for seminars and workshops (‘ll be doing another Savvy Sizzle in January).
    • Have breakfast or lunch with someone who is already doing it

Pursing your dreams adds excitement to your life!

One midlife woman just told me she’s going to take the LSATs with the intention of going to law school. She isn’t sure what she’ll do with it, but already a couple ideas popped into her head – possibilities she probably would never have considered without the impetus of this new direction. And she’s excited. Her new wish-fulfillment idea is clearing about cobwebs in her mind. She’s made a couple new choices that will better position her to take action.

Follow your passions to fill your life with happiness

Another midlife woman just got her degree in acupuncture. She started when her last kid was a junior in college. It took her a really long time to finish. Now she has a small office, and she loves it – especially when she can use acupuncture to help young women get pregnant (without using fertility drugs). In fact, she loves it so much, I’m betting she’s going to make fertility the “specialty” in her practice.

Keep track of your progress

4 – Watch what happens next

Once you get started in a direction, your life starts to move. Keep a journal because things will start to happen. Maybe it’ll be something on a TV show that will jog a thought in your mind. Or someone will start a conversation that gives you a new angle on your “what if…”
What one thirty-something woman told me was that she was just going along trying to figure things out. Then it got clear. How she explained it was, “one day my life just shifted.”

So keep a journal…you’re going to find it fascinating in a few months!

In January I’ll be starting another Savvy Sizzle workshop. I’ll be sharing more with you over the next two months…but here’s what I’ll be doing: Savvy Sizzle MasterClass

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Hederow Theater with Penelope Reed & Jane A. McNeil

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Penelope Reed, Hedgerow Director Emeritus

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Four Proud Hedgerow Generations

Local theater is a bright spot in most communities. But what do you know about the behind-the-scenes? That’s what we’re finding out at this week’s Friday Happy Hour with Rose VAlley’s Hedgerow Theater’s Director Emeritus Penelope Reed and the up and coming playwright Jane A. McNeil.  Jane’s first play, Dishman Springs is being performed at the Hedgerow Theater starting on September 14. Tickets are $20 and can be purchased online: Dishman Springs
Penelope Reed is the Director Emeritus of Hedgerow Theater. A fourth generation theater artist, Ms. Reed distinguished herself in many roles as leading actress, director and master teacher at The Milwaukee Repertory McCarter Theatres, among others. Academic and Administration credits include Alverno College and The Lawrenceville School Theatre Department Chair and Robert G. Pitman and Alan P. Kirby Art Centers where she served as Administrator. Her passion for the last twenty years has been enlightening minds and transforming lives through theater. She is grateful to be part of a company with such outstanding human beings. Ms. Reed is the former President of The Rotary Club of Media.
Jane A. McNeil, Playwright

Newest HedgerowTheater Production

Jane A. McNeil is an animated storyteller, playwright, and student of human interaction and behavior. Throughout her life and conversations with anyone who crosses her path, Jane has gained a unique perspective into the human spirit, the everyday survivor, and the journey back from the unmentionable. She lives in Villanova with her husband, two kids, and two elderly dogs in a farmhouse; where coincidentally the renowned playwright, Philip Barry, routinely dined with Hope Montgomery Scott, his dear friend and the real-life inspiration for his famous leading lady, Tracy Lord, from his Broadway play, The Philadelphia Story.
The Hedgerow Theater is located in Swarthmore PA, just minutes from the heart of Media PA. Learn more about performances and other theater events: Hedgerow Theater Company.
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Melinda Emerson on the Friday Happy Hour

Melinda Emerson on Friday Happy HourDoes your midlife reinvention include starting your dream  business? Or do you already have a business that could use a mini-makeover? Then you need to hear from The Small Biz Lady, Melinda Emerson. She’s joining Annmarie Kelly at this week’s Friday Happy Hour and she has lots of ideas for you.

Melinda Emerson “SmallBizLady” is America’s #1 Small Business Expert. Her brand reaches 3 million entrepreneurs a week online. Her mission is to End Small Business Failure. Forbes named her the #1 women for small business owners to follow on twitter.

 www.succeedasyourownboss.com

www.facebook.com/smallbizlady

You can find her new book Fix Your Business on amazon.com

Here are some fun links from things I talked about today:


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Suzi Siegel on the Friday Happy Hour

suzie sieIn the midst of the tiny house phenomena, Suzi Siegel became fascinated with what was going on in her own town of Queens NY. She discovered a plethora of tiny things – including NYPD’s smallest bomb-sniffing police dog, the shortest first name and an itsy-bitsy topless bar. More importantly, Suzi discovered a whole new way to see the world. Suzi Siegel is joining Annmarie Kelly at the Friday Happy Hour to talk about what she learned from Tiny New York, i). There are plenty of books about New York City. But there has never been a book about the smallest things in the biggest city. Get her book on Amazon.
Suzi Siegel is a former investigative report and travel writer. And, for part of her career, worked with the Philadelphia police force.
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RadioWrap-Up.8.3.18: Volunteering

Annette GlaudelAnnette Glaudel is making the most of her retirement – and she’s coming to the Friday Happy Hour to tell you waht – and give you some interesting ideas.
Annette has college degrees in chemical engineering and an MBA in finance. She worked for an oil refiner for 31 years and has been busy since retiring 7 years ago. Annette volunteers for Good Works, Appalachia Service Project, the Veterans Administration, Bridge of Hope, Saints Simon and Jude Church, and her homeowners association. Here are some of Annette’s favorite places:

August is Romance Awareness Month.. Here’ s the link to the article I mentioned: Five Tips for Reigniting Romance

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RadioWrap-Up.7.27.18: The Artist of Your Life

inspiration for womenAre you writing the script for your life, or is someone doing it for you? Adria Firestone thought she was having the best life – success, travel, love and more. It was all good until the day she crashed and burned. We’re talking about her journey back and how she decided to become the artist of her life – and how you can too.
Adria is Speaker & coach. She had an award winning international career in opera and music theater and  became a life and career coach about a dozen years ago. Adria’s passion is to empower women personally and professionally. You can learn more about her here: Adria Firestone
You can find her book on amazon.com: You are the Artist of Your Life. Here’s Adria Firestone talking about #METOO
If you are interested in her special offer, you can go here: Adria’s Special Offer

  • Tonight’s Blood Moon info. Here are two articles: Space.com and CNN
  • Here’s a clip from the Fox News show Objectified

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RadioWrap-Up.7.20.18.JOY at the Friday Happy Hour!

Kathy McCabe

How is July like your life?
We’re midway through the summer and, just like July, many of us are at the midlife point of our lives. We know our season isn’t over…but what do we do now? Reinvention is a common topic on the Friday Happy Hour and this week we’re finding out how lawyer turned coach Kathy McCabe changed careers and filled her own life with JOY! If you want more JOY in your life, tune in this Friday?
About Kathy: Kathy McCabe is a results-driven Certified Life Coach who reinvented her career in her mid-life and has helped many other women do the same. In addition to her life coach training, Kathy has more than 20 years of experience in the corporate world working as a litigator and law-firm partner, and also as a small-business entrepreneur. Kathy loves to help women find more real joy, empowerment, and purpose in their every day lives. Find Kathy on her Website and on Facebook 
Kathy’s next online coaching group “Real Joy Group” is starting on Friday 7/27/18.  For listeners of the Friday Happy Hour with Annmarie Kelly, Kathy is offering an additional “one on one” 60-minute coaching session with Kathy if they sign up for one of her groups.
Walk Down Memory Land: On today’s show I talked about old scary TV shows Twilight Zone, Outer Limets and Night Gallery. Twilight Zone and Night Gallery were both created by the late Rod Serling. Want to take a walk down the scariness of Rod Serling? I found this bizarre sight with some paintings from the show: Night Gallery
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Behind the Headlines: Mara Martin

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Mara Martin, a Sports Illustrated swimsuit search finalist, created quite a stir recently when she walked the runway in a bikini while breastfeeding her infant daughter. Afterward she posted on Instagram “I’m so grateful to be able to share this message and hopefully normalize breastfeeding and also show others that women CAN DO IT ALL!” She marveled at the fact that she was getting so much attention “for doing something I do every day.”

OK, where to start…

  1. Excuse me, Mara. While you may be breastfeeding everyday, I don’t think you do it in a bikini, while walking the runway, in front of a room full of people and a slew of photographers. If you do, you must have some full house.
    And, be honest, you know exactly what the fuss is all about…you are a beautiful woman who did something seemingly outrageous. If you hadn’t made a “splash” doing it, I’m guessing you would be disappointed.
  2. That’s one…here’s another:  You hope to “normalize breastfeeding.” I think breastfeeding is a beautiful and natural thing to do. Mothers who breastfeed are a special breed – especially if they are working outside the home. But what needs to be “normalized” about it?
    Maybe Mara means normalizing breastfeeding on the runway. Whoo-hoo – I’m glad – now I know I can do that – and, thanks to Mara, I won’t be a freak when I do breastfeed on the catwalk.
    OK, yes…I do know that ship has sailed…I won’t be breastfeeding on the runway. I won’t even be on the runway… So none of that upsets me. However, I think it was a peculiar thing to say, it wasn’t troubling. Here’s what was…
  3. Mara’s post shows how really excited about showing everyone that “women CAN DO IT ALL!” Doesn’t that make you cringe??? It did me!!
    Yes, of course we can do it all. We already know that because, as women, we’re powerful and victorious. We are capable, loving and amazing creatures without whom the world would fall apart. So…maybe not the whole world, but our little world of house and home.
    So…Yes, we can. BUT why should we?

From years of teaching my Victorious Woman Project classes, I know that “doing it all” is one of the biggest obstacles to a woman’s personal success and happiness. And in my “Breaking the Cycle of Overcare” classes, “doing it all” is the very thing that makes us tired, angry, overwhelmed and resentful. It’s a major cause of stress, overeating and lack of sleep for most women.

More recently, when talking to women about my latest book, The Five-Year Marriage®, “doing it all” is the biggest complaint I hear. Things like “I stayed home to raise the kids but now I’m back to work – but I’m still doing all the house things I did before. Why isn’t he pitching in?” Those women are ready to renegotiate their contracts!

Listen Victory Chicks, it’s good to know that you can do it all – if you need to. It’s empowering.

However, it’s really more important – and just as empowering – to know that you can negotiate your life and choose what you want to do – and leave the rest…for another person, another day, another time of life. That REALLY doing it all!

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STILL: Don’t let this word fool you into changing how you act

Still. I used to think of it as an innocuous word. Sometimes peaceful, like, “In the still of the night I can hear the song of nightingales.” Sometimes it can be even sweet: “Even after twenty years I’m still in love with my spouse.”

Recently, however, I’ve been thinking “still” is an evil word.

I first noticed the wickedness of “still” a couple years ago when I read Gloria Steinem’s most recent book, My Life on the Road. In it, the eighty-four year old feminist icon said the thing that shocked her so much about aging was the word “still.” Steinem explained that, in the normal course of writing and speaking, she noticed that people started asking “are you still doing that?”

At first, Steinem thought it was odd that people would ask if she was “still” doing the work that she’s done most of her life. Then she realized the question was age-related. The question was more like, “why are you doing that now…at your age.”

When I read it, I thought it was curious. But I didn’t relate. So getting “stilled” was about Gloria. Not me.

STILL: A new understanding as a midlife woman.

However, a few months ago I was looking around for a new car, one with a manual transmission. Yes, I know. Nobody drives them anymore. Except, apparently, just me and a few thousand other people in the US (it’s different overseas).

I learned to drive on an automatic, but once I got the hang of driving stick, I found it way more fun…and never bought an automatic again. However, there are very few car makers who offer a manual transmission, so it’s slim pickings. I complained.

At first friends just said, “you should just buy an automatic.”  Boring…

Then after I bought my new, fully-loaded Mazda six-speed – that’s when some of them – too many, in fact – used the “S” word: “are you still driving a stick shift?”
At first, like Gloria, it surprised me. After all, if I always buy a car with a manual transmission, why wouldn’t I get that kind of car?

Don’t let others use STILL to make you let go of your youthful habits!

It reminded me of the day my sister-in-law expressed her shock that my mother, then in her late seventies, was still wearing high heels. “I don’t even wear them anymore,” she exclaimed. But my mom always wore heels…and did until she was in her mid-eighties.

When it was her time to stop wearing them, she did. When it was her time. Then she started wearing flats. When it’s time for me to drive an automatic, I will. Until then, I’ll STILL drive stick shift.

See how “still” sensitive I’ve become? And it’s Gloria’s fault.

Take a moment to think – has anyone used STILL on you?

What about you? Is there anything YOU aren’t doing because someone is still-ing you?

OK…if it’s your kid asking you why you still wear those granny panties you bought at Wal-mart, she’s right. 😉

Stand up to anyone implying you should act “older”

However, if your kids are asking why you still want to work, still want to start your own business, still want to get your degree – or an advanced degree, still want to do so much volunteer work… remind them you’re still the mother and it’s your life and your business and to butt out.

Or try some guilt (that’s my Italian showing). Like…tell them you would have done it sooner if you hadn’t been raising them.
And if that doesn’t work, tell them two words. You know the two I’m talking about…

Us midlife women know when it’s the right time to change, until then, shine on!

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