March's Deep Pause

Corona-19 has flipped the world upside-down. It’ll be a apart of your history – women’s history – forever. Most people are scared…sheltering in place, keeping their distance from one another, living on FB and Instagram.

You have a choice this month – to see what is happening both globally and in your world – as devastation or opportunity, If you choose the latter – and I hope you do – you can emerge from this difficult time on the plus side.

Now is the Time for Midlife Women to FOCUS ON THEMSELVES

You know how you’re always so busy? If it isn’t some work thing, it’s a social something. You keep wanting to focus on you and your goals, but then you get distracted by something else or somebody else. But now that you’re in a mandatory deep pause…here’s you opportunity!

I remember Annie, a woman I talk about in Victorious Woman. The fun-loving sixty-something woman was diagnosed with cancer. The thing that would have jazzed her into fighting for her life was opening a bridal shop. When she told her spouse, kids, and friends, everyone laughed. SO, instead of designing a life she wanted, she went into the default position; she died.

On the other hand, Victorious Woman Pattie Painter, also in her sixties and diagnosed with multiple cancers, chose to live by design. When she got well, she designed a new life as a wedding celebrant. She’s been performing weddings both locally and at different destinations for years…and having a wonderful time.

In an Ideal World, How Would You Design Your Perfect Life?

Have you been trying to design your own meditation practice? Start today with just five minutes. In two weeks you can build up to ten minutes…and in a month you’ll have designed a new healthy habit.

What do you want to do next month, next week, next year? What did you miss in the past that you want to do now? Is it a new skill or learning? What about that business you’ve always talked about? Or is there a fabulous trip (for next year…not now!)?  Have you always wanted to visit the original seven wonders of the world or the NEW wonders, or the top ten National Parks in the US? Maybe you’ve dreamed of tossing a coin in Italy’s Trevi fountain, having dinner at the Eiffel Tower, seeing Stonehenge, or meditating with a yogi at a Himalayan spa.

This “deep pause” is giving you time to focus on what’s in your heart of hearts. Make the most of it!

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February: Women and Heart Health

Knowledge is power for midlife women!

midlife women heart health month

Health knowledge puts you in control of what happens with your body.

Did you know that h
eart disease is the leading cause of death for African American and white women in the United States. Among American Indian and Alaska Native women, heart disease and cancer cause roughly the same number of deaths each year. For Hispanic and Asian or Pacific Islander women, heart disease is second only to cancer as a cause of death.

Resources to Empower Midlife Women

Here is a list of resources that can help you identify, understand and prevent heart disease: 

  1. Myths about heart disease and women: https://www.goredforwomen.org/en/about-heart-disease-in-women/facts/common-myths-about-heart-disease 
  2. Do you know what happened to Susan Lucci?: https://www.womansday.com/health-fitness/womens-health/a26144012/susan-lucci-heart-health-scare/ 
  3. Did you know JAW PAIN is a sign of a heart attack…and there’s others that you might be surprised about: https://www.womansday.com/health-fitness/womens-health/g2923/heart-attack-warning-signs/
  4. Want to bring down your blood pressure naturally? Here’s how: https://www.womansday.com/health-fitness/wellness/a55690/what-to-do-if-you-have-high-blood-pressure/
  5. Think you’re too young for heart disease? https://www.womansday.com/health-fitness/a23065148/fox-sports-jen-hale-cardiomyopathy/
  6. TIPS: 10 ways to keep the female heart healthy! https://www.unitypoint.org/livewell/article.aspx?id=97aaf1dc-cc96-44e5-95ad-6f20509bdd8d
  7. Did you floss your teeth for your heart today? The bacteria that causes gum disease can get into your bloodstream and elevate that protein that’s a marker for inflammation in the blood vessels. https://www.healthline.com/health/gum-disease-and-heart-disease

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Freedom, Empowerment, and YOU

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Freedom, Empowerment, and YOU


When I was a kid, my family went to Wildwood, New Jersey for the 4th of July. It was always this week because my father worked for the government, in procurement. The end of the fiscal year meant all departments had to spend all the money in their budget before June 30. If it wasn’t spent, departments risked not getting the same dollars in the next budget – when they may really need it.  So that money had to be spent…even if what was being bought was overpriced or not immediately needed.

My father had to sign off on those things…and he hated doing it. Also, most departments waited until close to the June 30 deadline to submit their stuff. As a result, during those last weeks, he often didn’t get home for dinner. And, when he did get home, his ulcer was acting up. Even as a kid I realized it was a stressful time for him.
Not for me!
My father’s stressful week signaled to me that it was almost time to go down the shore (to the beach, for those of you not from the Philly area).  We always left on the first Saturday after June 30. So, as soon as school got out in mid-June, my mind was on sand, surf, Morey’s Pier, Mack’s Pizza, and a “boardwalk sundae” – an interesting concoction that had everything sundae on a cone. And, oh yes, fireworks (still one of my favorite things).
As a kid, I didn’t think much about freedom. Of course I appreciated the historical significance. And my father was a Vet, and [what we now call] a Wounded Warrior. So I had some modern-day knowing about freedom. But it was more about “others” than me.

Then, at some point in my 20’s, after a broken engagement and its aftermath, something changed inside of me. Then I started fighting hard for my own independence. I wanted to stand on my own, to break free from some of the negative stuff of my history, to find my voice and be strong.

That’s when I started truly valuing my independence and the freedom it gave me – to be who I am and do what I want – including making my own mistakes and taking credit for my victories. In Victorious Woman-speak, I wanted to be an empowered woman…the first Victory Chick. 🙂

Of course, as you probably know, there’s a price for that. Not everyone gets happy when you assert your independence. However, the more you do it, the more comfortable you are with it and you don’t want to give it up.

It was much later that I realized that freedom is one of my top five values. The conscious awareness of my values was life-changing. In fact, I’ve noticed in my workshops, when someone consciously connects to her values, her life shifts in good directions. That’s probably why I post something about values so often on my Victorious Woman blog.

It’s also why, when Joseph wanted to get married, I suggested instead that we live together. And, when he still wanted to get married, my freedom value became the seed of The Five-Year Marriage®.

Do you ever think about your values? Do you notice them shifting over time? For example, health was always a value for me, but as I’ve gotten older, it’s inched  up on the list. Did you ever wonder what would you give up or stop doing…or start doing…if you fully honored your personal values?

Tomorrow, and through this weekend, I’m asking you to take a few minutes to think about freedom and independence – as a value – for you, as a woman. If you meditate, take it into your meditation. If you’re driving someplace, think about the cultures where women are not allowed to drive. If you’re chatting with some women, ask what they think is their personal experience freedom and empowerment.
Or maybe you just want to take some time to revisit your own values – something that can be particularly valuable if you are in some kind of transition.

Here are two articles that you might find helpful: What’s of Value to You? and Values and Bullies
I wish you a safe and victorious, and joyful Fourth of July – even if you are in another country.
With love and in victory,
Annmarie

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Is Hollywood Keeping Women Down?

Why is Hollywood painting strong midlife women as victims?

Jackson said he loved Ally. But he humiliated and demeaned her. It’s a “that’s what you get for trying to be a success” message to women.

Does Hollywood’s latest remake of A Star is Born make you nervous – for yourself or for your daughters? It makes me nervous!

The Typical Damsel in Distress Premise

You know the story – a very talented woman is busting it, but can’t seem to get a break. Then some man, a drug-addicted alcoholic star, gives her one…and she’s all starry-eyed because of it, and with him.

With that boost, she becomes a star. And, she decides with love and loyalty, that she’s save him from himself. But…she can’t.

Success Breeds Jealousy

Then, because he’s jealous or something, the guy embarrasses her in front of the whole world, stealing her thunder and ruining the biggest night of her life.

Afterward, he apologetically goes to rehab and gets clean. But, in the end, kills himself – leaving her guilt-ridden and forlorn. Wooo-hooo!!

The Successful Woman Portrayed as the Victim

Here’s the thing: At the end of that movie, you cry – not because Lady Gaga is on top of the world and you’re happy and hopeful. No, you cry because you feel sorry for her…the poor little victim. And you feel sad and powerless. It’s like getting the message “see, that’s what you get for being successful.”

What’s the Lesson for Successful Women here?

If women want strong role models, why does this movie keep getting made over and over – and starring strong and successful women (currently Lady Gaga)? It paints the woman as a victim at almost every turn. Yes, she’s a strong woman, but she pays a huge price for the success her talent gives her. Guy movies are seldom like that, right?

Hollywood and ‘Strong Women’

A generation ago, Thelma and Louise was touted as a “strong woman” movie – and it always seems to come up in those online lists. You’ll recall how two women go away for a weekend. One almost gets raped and the other one kills the guy. In the end, the women decide the best thing they can do is kill themselves. Apparently that’s the only way Hollywood can see a woman’s outcome.

From my Victorious Woman view, I made my own list. And today, for International Women’s Day, I’m sharing it with you…and maybe you can add it.

Annmarie’s “Strong Woman” Chick Flicks

  1. Hidden Figures (Katherine)
  2. Waiting to Exhale (Glo)
  3. Steel Magnolias (M’Lynn)
  4. Legally Blonde (Elle)
  5. The Color Purple (Celie)
  6. The Sound of Music (Maria)
  7. Silence of the Lambs (Clarice)
  8. Dirty Dancing (Baby)
  9. The Help (Aibileen)
  10. His Girl Friday (Hildy)
  11. The River Wild (Gail)
  12. Hunger Games (Katniss)
  13. Adam’s Rib (Amanda) and nearly every movie with Katherine Hepburn
  14. Erin Brockovich (Erin)

That’s my two cents…let me know what you think…

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Hate Your Job?

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What if YOU Live to be 100?

I hate my job and I hate working. If it wasn’t for the money and the medical benefits, I’d quit now.
Are you one of the many women who feel that way? Not so fast. One of the secrets to a long and healthy life might just be work – work you LOVE.

Passions are your key to happiness

Marilee Shapiro Asher was still sculpting and making art at 103 while living in her Washington DC retirement community. She told readers of her autobiography, published when Marilee was 102, “I have no personal philosophy of art, I do it because there is nothing else I would rather be doing.

Mabel Sawhill, in her third career, catered events. She was around so long that she catered some couple’s weddings AND their 50th anniversaries! When she died in her sleep at age 103, she still had catering gigs, and people yearned for her sticky buns and chicken salad. Her longevity secret: to be engaged and find delight in everything life had to offer.

Honey Canney started teaching water aerobics in 1972. She she was in her early sixties then. She still teaches those classes three times a week -at 103! Though she is nearly blind as a result of macular degeneration, she finds the water gives her freedom. And, she says, “I can be of some use to somebody and not sit around and suck my thumb. I miss the things I can’t do, but I kinda dwell on the ones I can do.

For Rose Torphy, 103-year-old great grandmother loves helping to preserve one of America the Beautiful’s crowing glories, the Grand Canyon – which was formed 100 years ago, when Rose was just a little girl!. When she was recently inducted as a Grand Canyon junior ranger, Rose told Good Morning America.“I am so happy someone is watching over it so that my great-great-grandchildren can visit it someday too.”

What’s your passion?

If you knew for sure that you were going to live to be 100, what would you do differently? Would you get that law degree or satisfy your love of animals by becoming a veterinarian? Maybe you’d start your own business, become a teacher or a psychologist?

What fabulous itch is just dying to be scratched?

Whatever it is, take the first step today. Do some online research, connect with someone who is already doing it, make a vision board and start dreaming.

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RadioWrap-Up.8.3.18: Volunteering

Annette GlaudelAnnette Glaudel is making the most of her retirement – and she’s coming to the Friday Happy Hour to tell you waht – and give you some interesting ideas.
Annette has college degrees in chemical engineering and an MBA in finance. She worked for an oil refiner for 31 years and has been busy since retiring 7 years ago. Annette volunteers for Good Works, Appalachia Service Project, the Veterans Administration, Bridge of Hope, Saints Simon and Jude Church, and her homeowners association. Here are some of Annette’s favorite places:

August is Romance Awareness Month.. Here’ s the link to the article I mentioned: Five Tips for Reigniting Romance

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Listen to “Making the Most of Your Retirement | Annette Glaudel chats with Annmarie Kelly” on Spreaker.


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RadioWrap-Up.7.27.18: The Artist of Your Life

inspiration for womenAre you writing the script for your life, or is someone doing it for you? Adria Firestone thought she was having the best life – success, travel, love and more. It was all good until the day she crashed and burned. We’re talking about her journey back and how she decided to become the artist of her life – and how you can too.
Adria is Speaker & coach. She had an award winning international career in opera and music theater and  became a life and career coach about a dozen years ago. Adria’s passion is to empower women personally and professionally. You can learn more about her here: Adria Firestone
You can find her book on amazon.com: You are the Artist of Your Life. Here’s Adria Firestone talking about #METOO
If you are interested in her special offer, you can go here: Adria’s Special Offer

  • Tonight’s Blood Moon info. Here are two articles: Space.com and CNN
  • Here’s a clip from the Fox News show Objectified

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Call-in: 610-701-9243

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Behind the Headlines: Mara Martin

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Mara Martin, a Sports Illustrated swimsuit search finalist, created quite a stir recently when she walked the runway in a bikini while breastfeeding her infant daughter. Afterward she posted on Instagram “I’m so grateful to be able to share this message and hopefully normalize breastfeeding and also show others that women CAN DO IT ALL!” She marveled at the fact that she was getting so much attention “for doing something I do every day.”

OK, where to start…

  1. Excuse me, Mara. While you may be breastfeeding everyday, I don’t think you do it in a bikini, while walking the runway, in front of a room full of people and a slew of photographers. If you do, you must have some full house.
    And, be honest, you know exactly what the fuss is all about…you are a beautiful woman who did something seemingly outrageous. If you hadn’t made a “splash” doing it, I’m guessing you would be disappointed.
  2. That’s one…here’s another:  You hope to “normalize breastfeeding.” I think breastfeeding is a beautiful and natural thing to do. Mothers who breastfeed are a special breed – especially if they are working outside the home. But what needs to be “normalized” about it?
    Maybe Mara means normalizing breastfeeding on the runway. Whoo-hoo – I’m glad – now I know I can do that – and, thanks to Mara, I won’t be a freak when I do breastfeed on the catwalk.
    OK, yes…I do know that ship has sailed…I won’t be breastfeeding on the runway. I won’t even be on the runway… So none of that upsets me. However, I think it was a peculiar thing to say, it wasn’t troubling. Here’s what was…
  3. Mara’s post shows how really excited about showing everyone that “women CAN DO IT ALL!” Doesn’t that make you cringe??? It did me!!
    Yes, of course we can do it all. We already know that because, as women, we’re powerful and victorious. We are capable, loving and amazing creatures without whom the world would fall apart. So…maybe not the whole world, but our little world of house and home.
    So…Yes, we can. BUT why should we?

From years of teaching my Victorious Woman Project classes, I know that “doing it all” is one of the biggest obstacles to a woman’s personal success and happiness. And in my “Breaking the Cycle of Overcare” classes, “doing it all” is the very thing that makes us tired, angry, overwhelmed and resentful. It’s a major cause of stress, overeating and lack of sleep for most women.

More recently, when talking to women about my latest book, The Five-Year Marriage®, “doing it all” is the biggest complaint I hear. Things like “I stayed home to raise the kids but now I’m back to work – but I’m still doing all the house things I did before. Why isn’t he pitching in?” Those women are ready to renegotiate their contracts!

Listen Victory Chicks, it’s good to know that you can do it all – if you need to. It’s empowering.

However, it’s really more important – and just as empowering – to know that you can negotiate your life and choose what you want to do – and leave the rest…for another person, another day, another time of life. That REALLY doing it all!

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Partners: 4 "Avoid at All Costs" Behaviors

The Five Year Marriage™ by Annmarie Kelly Book Cover ArtHere’s the 4 traits to “Avoid at All Costs” List I promised during my interview with Shaman Anumani. Paying attention to them could be a little painful now but will save you a world of hurt down the road!
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3.10.17 RadioWrap-Up. Cathy Sikorski on Caregiving

Happy Hour friend, Cathy Sikorski is back this week to talk caregiving, Seniors and Women’s History Month. We’ll also be talking about Cathy’s new book, Who Moved My Teeth, which is launching on Sunday. I’ll be there and I’d love to meet you there.

Here are the details:

  • Who Moved My Teeth?: Preparing for Self, Loved Ones & Caregiving
  • WHEN: Sunday, March 12th from 2 PM to 4PM
  • WHERE: Narberth Bookshop, 221 Haverford Avenue. Narberth, PA  19072

Here are two sites that posted pictures from International Women’s Day strike: PBS and CNN

If you want to read more about Maggie Kuhn, check out her out: Women’s Hall of Fame

Today’s quote is from Maggie Kuhn, who said:

Stand before the people you fear and speak your mind
– even if your voice shakes.
When you least expect it,
someone may actually listen to what you have to say.

Annmarie is “live” every Friday, from 3-4pm EST.
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You won’t want to miss Happy Hour with Annmarie Kelly …and you don’t have to!

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