Melinda Emerson on the Friday Happy Hour

Melinda Emerson on Friday Happy HourDoes your midlife reinvention include starting your dream  business? Or do you already have a business that could use a mini-makeover? Then you need to hear from The Small Biz Lady, Melinda Emerson. She’s joining Annmarie Kelly at this week’s Friday Happy Hour and she has lots of ideas for you.

Melinda Emerson “SmallBizLady” is America’s #1 Small Business Expert. Her brand reaches 3 million entrepreneurs a week online. Her mission is to End Small Business Failure. Forbes named her the #1 women for small business owners to follow on twitter.

 www.succeedasyourownboss.com

www.facebook.com/smallbizlady

You can find her new book Fix Your Business on amazon.com

Here are some fun links from things I talked about today:


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Mid-life: Strong is the New Skinny

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We have 2 very special guests for This Friday’s Happy Hour.  Join me along with Kelley Connors, MPH, who is the founder of an on-line community and on-line radio show called Real Women on Health (RWoH).  RWoH is all about empowering women to be their own best health and wellness advocates. She’s telling us about how, for women in midlife, Strong is the New Skinny! We’ll highlight and discuss how when our brain is healthy everything else from the head down can more easily join in.GD Image_Annmarie Kelly Radio Show
Also, joining me for Chick Chat, is Sharon Kelly Hake.  Sharon launched Great Dames, Inc which helps women leaders bring skills and passion to their personal, professional, and community service lives.  Sharon empowers women to make their mark and find their voice while rediscovering their purpose through mentoring, workshops and events.  It’s all about legacy creation!!!
Tune in Friday February 21 at 3pm! If you’re local to West Chester PA, tune into AM Radio 1520. If not, listen in at www.WCHE1520.com
AFTER THE SHOW:
Special offer to Happy Hour listeners:  Sharon Hake wants to introduce you and a friend to the Great Dames Spring series tickets with a BUY ONE GOT ONE 50% off. That means you can bring your daughter or mentee or special friend for half price! 
HURRY! This offer is available to only the first 10 people who send their name and contact info to info@great-dames.com

Are You Sabotaging Your New Year's Resolutions?

Sleeping NewbornHow to make This Year
the NO-SABOTAGE Year!

This Year is in its infancy. And, just like a new baby, you have the world in front of you. And, with the childlike belief of a little one, you know that nothing’s going to stop you from creating the success you want. And that’s a great thing. According to the University of Scranton Journal of Clinical Psychology, people who explicitly make resolutions are 10 times more likely to attain their goals than people who don’t explicitly make resolutions.
So if you’ve gotten to the resolution phase, CONGRATULATIONS!

However, the same research indicated that, of the 45% of people who actually take the time to make resolutions, only 49% of them succeed.

That’s why the local gym is so packed in January that you have to wait and wait to use the equipment. At places like Weight Watchers, the check-in line is 20 people deep and the classes are packed. Regular exercisers and serious dieters know that they only have to wait until mid-February and then things will calm down.

Why?

Why, when you want a better and more satisfying or loving relationship, or a job that pays you more or that you enjoy doing, or you want to start a business or get a promotion, or (OK, I’ll include it) you want to drop ten or fifteen pounds, do you work at it for a couple weeks and then forget it?

Here’s the biggest secret: Your life is dependent on your habits.

You got where you are as a result of habits. When you set a new goal, some of your current habits hold you back. They don’t even have to be “bad” habits, and maybe at another time, this habit or that one was even good for you. But now it’s just outlived its purpose. Because we’re so entrenched in our patterns and habits, even when we really want something better, changing old habits is a challenge. When challenged, we are more likely to retreat into our comfort zones.
That’s why I created the Victorious Woman Project – to help you start talking about those challenges and to help you overcome them!

So get ready – this is going to be YOUR YEAR for VICTORY! Here’s how to do it:

1. Join the Victorious Woman Mailing List

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2. Join the Private Facebook Group: Victory Chicks 

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Besides being a great place to field questions and discuss issues with supportive, like-minded women, I post coupons for my upcoming workshops!

3. Join the Savvy Sizzle Master Class! 

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Get your goals – and your life – on track so you can BE MORE of who you really are, DO MORE that makes you happy and fulfilled, and HAVE MORE of the life you’ll love living EVERY DAY. That’s exactly what you’re going to do once you dive into in this training.

4. Get a copy of the Victorious Woman Book or the Victory By Design e-book!

How can you possibly fail with all that support???? You won’t!

Have a healthy, fabulous and abundantly prosperous New Year!!
In victory,
Annmarie

January Questions – What's the biggest challenge you face against your New Year Resolutions?

Happy New Year!

Now that you’ve made you “New Year New You” resolutions, what’s going to be the biggest challenge you think you’ll face?

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Sex: How Important to Mid-Life Women?

SalmonJacket.HeadShotMiley Cyrus recently told NBC Today Show’s Matt Lauer that she was getting her sexy on now because she’s heard that after 40 it’s all over. Lots of women were laughing themselves silly…but not everyone thought it was funny. In mid-life, so much happens to our bodies, our self-esteem and our partners. It stands to reason that all those changes will affect our intimate relationships. This week’s topic for Happy Hour with Annmarie Kelly on AM Radio 1520 is the last in October’s Emotional Wellness series – and the juiciest! It’s all about sex in mid-life!
Join me as I explore this topic with sex Therapist Dr. Jill McDevitt. Tune in October 25, from 3-4pmEST. Live on 1520AM and live online at www.WCHE1520.com
BTW: if you have an embarrassing question that you don’t want to ask you everyday girlfriends, ask your victory girlfriends. Call in with your questions at 610-701-9243.
October is emotional wellness month. Click here to listen to previous radio shows discussing important emotional wellness topics (domestic violence, depression, and more).

Annmarie speaks to Wilmington Women in Business on March 21

Flipping the Switch: From Pressure to Power
Change and stress are inevitable any time and anywhere. But in today’s economy, you have to do business with less and still juggle your personal responsibilities. The combination seems like a never-ending challenge that can wreak havoc on your health, work & relationships. But it doesn’t have to be that way. Once you understand where your control lies in any situation, you can put yourself back in the driver’s seat of your life. You won’t eliminate stress but you can reduce it significantly, no matter what is happening around you.
Hear Annmarie at this great venue and be inspired to reach your next VICTORY!
Date: March 21st, 2013
Location: University & Whist Club, Wilmington, DE
Time: 5:30pm – 7:30pm
Cost: Member Rate: $35.00, Guest Rate: $45.00
Register now!

Top 5 steps for making a life change

1. What do you want?

It sounds like common sense but knowing what you really want isn’t as simple as it seems on the surface. As a “recovering good girl” I know how easy it is to live your life based on someone else’s life plan – a parent, a spouse, your social group, even your kids.
If you are like most women, you like to help people and also like approval, so it’s fairly effortless to step into the “best supporting” player in your own life. As a result, without even realizing it, you can forget what you really want and what makes you really happy.
In Victory by Design, I suggest values before vision. Here’s how:  Values

2. Choose a goal.

Once you have a good sense of your top five values, put together a vision board. Go through magazines to find pictures you like and cut them out. Vision Boards often help you clarify your desires into themes, like peace or prosperity, or into specific activities, like skiing or enjoying the beach. My first Vision Board was what I call a “lifestyle” board and it included pictures of success, travel, home furnishing, clothes and romance.
In my Vision Board webinar, I explain how Vision Boards work. Basically, even just the process of creating a Vision Board tickles the Law of Attraction. Using a Vision Board regularly magnifies that Law.
From a Vision Board, you can make a list of goals and put them in order of priorities.
Part of setting your goals is saying no to things that are not part of your goals…Prioritize yourself

3. Persistence

Persistence is finding what isn’t working and not doing it anymore. But, as Seth Godin says (see the Secret to Persistence), it’s about focusing on the goal and changing what you are doing to achieve it. But change, even when you know it has to happen, isn’t easy. That’s where your victory comes into play. Victory is in the persistent stretches you make our of your comfort zone.
Here’s what you need to do:

  • Figure out what isn’t working
  • Take responsibility for it
  • Choose something better – another process or direction; mastermind with your mentor or trusted colleagues
  • Make a plan for implementation
  • Take consistent action toward the goal and the greater, fuller expression of who you really are

Persistence, like victory, isn’t for sissies!
The Victory Challenge on this page spells out what you need to do.

4. Embrace Change

Some people would rather die than change. I think some people do. In Victorious Woman! I tell you about Annie, a woman I met after she was diagnosed with cancer. She was a fun lady who wanted to open a bridal shop. Unfortunately no one – not her spouse or children or friends – supported her dream. Rather than change anything in her life that would help her take steps in that direction, Annie chose to refuse any kind of treatment. I saw Annie right up until the day before she died. She was only 62.

If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve already got. Nothing will happen differently without change. This article will help you handle it.

5. Keep your Emotional Energy Flowing!
Find out how: Emotional Energy

Next steps….
Once you get this far, I can help you get through the challenges you are likely to face. I’ll help you keep you going when obstacles come your way or when you feel so weary you think you’d like to quit. Here are a few teleseminars/webinars that can help:

  • Vision Boards: Learn how to use the law of attraction using a Vision Board or Vision Book (or both). It includes the dos and don’ts of making a Vision Board/Book.
  • Breaking Through Your Personal Glass Ceiling: Great tips for letting go of the “excess baggage” that’s holding you back from being who your really are and doing what you really want to do.
  • How To Talk so People Will Listen: It’s all about the relationships. But you have to communicate effectively so that you get heard and get your point across. This webinar includes a DiSC personal profile that gives you a wealth of personalized insights.

To find more information about all our upcoming events, including any upcoming Kelly’s Cafe open-forum/Q&A teleseminars, and to register, go to: EVENTS.
 

Leading Lady or Best Supporting?

Golden Globes, People’s Choice, the Oscars. It’s the season for all the Hollywood movie awards ceremonies where actors are chosen as the “best” for their role in a movie. I was watching one last week and I started thinking about one of my favorite movies, The Holiday. Do you remember it?
The premise of the movie is that, for the Christmas holidays, Iris (Kate Winslet) swaps her English cottage with the California home of Amanda (Cameron Diaz), and vice versa. During her stay, Iris develops a charming relationship with Arthur (Eli Wallach) an old movie screenwriter. One night at dinner, Iris tells Arthur about her dysfunctional situation and sorry lovelife. While Iris is crying, Arthur stops her, saying, “This is not a hard one to figure out. Iris, in the movies we have leading ladies and we have the best friend. You, I can tell, are a leading lady, but for some reason you are behaving like the best friend.”

What about you?

In your personal production called “My Life”, if you were winning an award, would it be as the Leading Lady? Or, would it be as Best Supporting player in the life of your spouse, kids, friends, co-workers?
Somehow women have gotten the message that being the supporting player is more worthy than being the Leading Lady. That the leading lady – at work or at home – means being X [the “b” word], and it’s selfish and self-centered.
That’s just not true.
Think Meryl Streep. Who could be more gracious and more successful as a leading lady than Meryl? Here’s what I think she does: she’s in charge of her personal and professional life, has her ups and downs (like we all do) and does it all by embracing her personal power without being self-focused. I think that’s because she:

  • lives by her values
  • knows what she wants and goes after it
  • does her best
  • strives to be gracious in the process and
  • doesn’t let others distract her from those things that are important to her

How could that be wrong? If it’s not wrong for her, how could it be wrong for you? It isn’t!
As you think about the fresh canvas of a year in front of  you, remember this: this life is your one and only show of shows. If you haven’t been taking the lead until now, 2013 is your year to step up into the role of leading lady!
Need help getting started? You can start with Dare to Dream – on sale until 1/23/13.

Dare to Dream in 2013 Teleseminar

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Dare to Dream in 2013


Have you been thinking “Is this all there is?” DO you want MORE from life?

I know, I know. I hear it from women every day. If you are like them, you feel frustrated and disappointment with how the “me” part of your life is turning out. Maybe it’s because you’ve been busy with everyday work and your kids. Maybe all this time you’ve been working hard on everyone else’s agenda but not your own. Maybe you don’t even remember what it’s like to have an agenda of your own anymore.
Listen, in your most honest moments, you and I know you’ve worked hard but and done your best. You probably wouldn’t say you’re UNhappy. But, at the same time, would you say you’re really happy, satisfied and filled up? Maybe you know deep inside that there is more for you – and you want it, but don’t know how to get it.
Well, 2013 is still a blank page and you can write your dreams on it and make those dreams come true. Now it’s time to do something for YOU…and with this special offer, getting started is even easier!

Dare to Dream in 2013

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Dare to Dream in 2013 will get you on the right track!
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Can you Help?

I have a birthday coming up.

Spouse Joseph wanted to take me to the Big Apple, but NYC is pretty cold in January. I wasn’t warm to the idea :-). Then he started to plan a trip to DC, but it’s inauguration weekend and too crowded. So I asked him to plan either one of those trips when the weather gets nicer.

Then told him what I really want for my birthday. I want talk about our future, our goals and our lifestyle and come up with our next five year plan. I think Joseph is like many, maybe most, men. He’d rather buy something he can wrap up and present rather than to go “inside” and make plans and then verbalize them.

But, for those of you who don’t know, Joseph and I re-contract every five years. This is a “contract renewal year” for us and, if we get married again, it’ll be (traditionally-speaking) a milestone year (25). And so many things have changed in the past five years, the most significant being that both our mothers passed away. We were the primary caregivers for both moms. Now, for the first time in over ten years, we don’t have those caregiving responsibilities. For those of you who have been here, as parental caregivers, empty nesters or sandwich caregivers, you know what I mean. You roll your responsibilities into your life and take the changes in stride. All of it affects your relationships, and most importantly, changes your primary relationship.

Then, when something changes, it’s like being laid off from a job. You have to rethink everything: personal, social, career, spiritual, etc. Not only do you have to do it for yourself, but also with your spouse or partner.

If you experienced a change, and wanted to rethink something in your relationships (any relationship), what would it be? What would you want more of/less of or what would be different? Would you want more honesty, more closeness, more independence, more planning, more fun…more of what? And what would you want less of? Would you want less closeness, fewer responsibilities, fewer areas of disagreement…or something else?

If you were rethinking your relationships, what would you do differently?