Celebrating Them…and US!

Celebrating the 19th Amendment

What’s so good about today?

This month marks the 100th Anniversary of the 19th Amendment, guaranteeing women the right to vote. The amendment was ratified on August 18, and certified on Aug. 26, 1920. 100 years ago today. 

It might not seem like so big a deal to people like us who were raised with the right to vote.
However, close your eyes for a moment and think of those women – like your great grandmothers, or even your grandmothers and great aunts. World War I had just ended and the world was living through a pandemic – with way fewer sources of information. They had to wait for the evening paper to find out anything.
For their whole lives, those women had almost no say in the decisions that impacted their lives. They grew up thinking only white men could vote – and had to watch as even the really dumb ones voted while so many smart women stayed silent.
Then the 19th Amendment was ratified and certified less than 70 days before the presidential election. It was new and exciting, and I’ll bet, a little scary.

The Big First Steps for Women’s Empowerment

The 19th Amendment was the beginning that changed everything for women – including you and me.

It’s history now, but here’s the thing: it didn’t happen fast. The 19th Amendment was over 100 years in the making. While some women stirred the pot of change for years, it wasn’t until 1848 that something “big” happened – the First Women’s Rights Convention in Seneca Falls, New York. The movers and shakers at that convention included Elizabeth Cady Stanton, Lucretia Mott, and Susan B. Anthony.
They didn’t know it would take almost another hundred years to become the 19th Amendment. Or that they themselves would never get the right to vote.
You know who else never voted?

  • Clara Barton, the “Angel of the Battlefield.” She was instrumental in founding the American Red Cross, which is still strong and vibrant today.
  • Madame C.J. Walker, the first female self-made millionaire.
  • Elizabeth Blackwell, a British physician who became America’s first female doctor.
The list goes on and on – one smart Victorious Woman after the other kept plugging away – an uphill battle. They, too, had no end date (and no phones, FB – not even  washing machines or dishwashers!)  They just had a bunch a question marks.
They must have been exceptional women, yes? Actually…maybe not so much!

In her book, Founding Mothers, the late Cokie Roberts, explains it this way: “…as I got to know these women…I came to the conclusion that there’s nothing unique about them. They did – with great hardship, courage, pluck, sadness, joy, energy, and humor – what women did. They put one foot in front of the other in remarkable circumstances. They carried on.”
They did it then and we are doing it now – with courage, pluck, sadness, joy, energy, and humor.

Now It’s Our Turn to Create Change

We’ll change the way we school our kids. Tele-work and tele-health will be commonplace. Drive-in movies will be all the rage – again. Women running our country and companies will be the norm.
And couples will look back on the old way of marriage and think “how did any marriages ever survive without regularly resetting every five years?”
100 years from now, those women will be looking back at us and thinking “WOW – they must have been something!”
THAT’S what’s so good about today.
Let’s celebrate it! Call your BFF and toast the women from 100 years ago. Toast our pluckiness during this pandemic. Have some fun imagining what two women 100 years from now will be saying about us.
Cheers to all of us and each of us!
With love and in victory,
#WomensEmpowerment,  #FiveYearMarriage, # Victorious Woman Project, #LoveAndMarriage,  #AnnmarieKelly

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Should You Act Your Age?

How to transform in midlife“Nan didn’t like a lot of people,” the lovely college student said at Susan’s memorial service on a rainy Saturday afternoon, “In fact, she barely tolerated them.” The mourners laughed in recognition, lightening the somber mood at the historic old-English-style Bryn Mawr church.

She was right. Eighty-year-old Susan wasn’t a warm and fuzzy woman. She didn’t sugar-coat anything. She would rather “tell it like it is” than wrap her words in a pretty package that didn’t convey her point – and she always had one. Susan’s straight-forward talk, competitive behaviors, and those recent tattoos weren’t always comfortable for a lot of people in her upper crust crowd.

Yet, on that rainy December afternoon, Susan’s granddaughter stood before the congregants in the pew-packed church and showcased Susan’s forthright energy as shared three things she learned from her grandmother, starting with “Never Act Your Age.” She shared how much she loved that her grandmom kept up with college lingo and always gave her a straight answer. “Nan was my ‘go-to person’ when something happened,” she said, fighting back tears. And she seemed amazed – and tickled – that her grandmother got both her tattoos in her seventies.

When she finished, three of Nan’s other grandkids spoke. They expressed childlike delight in Susan’s “boundless energy and appetite for adventure.” They told the mourners how they loved that, “no grandchild’s game, play or project was too small to warrant a road trip.” And how, when two of Susan’s granddaughters ran the most recent NYC Marathon, “Susan scrambled from borough to borough on foot, cab, and subway to catch as many sightings as she could of her two granddaughters running.”

About about those tattoos…one of them was on her ankle. It said, simply written in beautiful cursive, “Grace.” When I saw it a couple years ago, I asked Susan why “grace” and, without missing a beat, she said, “Because that’s what we all need.”

You know, we Victory Chicks are sometimes admonished to “act your age” and dress “age appropriate.” Okay advice if you feel like moving into [what I call] Alfred Dunner style. Susan didn’t. She didn’t act her age. If she felt like swimming and didn’t have a bathing suit, she’d take off her shirt and swim in shorts and a bra. Susan’s no-holds-barred behaviors served her until the day she died.

What about you? Are you tired of acting your age? Do you find being “age appropriate” makes you feel bored out of your mind.
As you head into the New Year, here are three ideas for bucking the system and putting some jazz back in your life:

1 – Do something you thought was too late to do

What do you regret missing out on when you were younger? Some event or travel, starting a business, getting a certain degree? Susan got her Master’s Degree in midlife and, in like manner, I know one midlife Victory Chick who is studying for the LSATs with the intention of becoming a lawyer. Yes, she won’t have the career she might have had at thirty, but at sixty, with more experience, more compassion, less need to get to the top, etc., she will help people in a way she never could have in the past.
Or what about finally writing that book you always said was in you? Take a class, join a writer’s group, make an outline…whatever small step you take, do it!
What is it that your age is saying it’s too late to do? Screw it – do it anyway!

2 – Learn something new.

Neuroscientists say that you can create new pathways in your brain. If old ones are dying off, learning something new can make a difference. You can learn another language, take up quilting, become an expert in local history, study astrology or spiritualism, or anything else that you’ve always wanted to do but never got around to doing

3 – Revisit your childhood

Go back to your old neighborhood and see what’s still around…and who. What do those old streets make you think of? What did you and your friends talk about when  you shared your dreams for when you grew up?
Were you a reader? Then  make a goal to read the entire Nancy Drew series again, or Little Women, or something that will remind you what you dreamed about in those days.
If none of these things tickle your fancy, what does?

The truth is, age matters when you make it matter.

If you have the ability to do something and the willingness to take action, you can do it. Sure, it might take you a little longer than it might have twenty or thirty years ago. So what?

Don’t forget, now you have more self-confidence, polish, people skills, and lots of other things you didn’t have then. Maybe in those days, not having those things kept you from being your best self – and having your best life.

And, one of two things will happen: if you die, you will die doing something you love. If you don’t die, you’ll make your life richer, love it more, feel good, and have something to look back on when you are older.

Here’s your second chance – or third or fourth. What do you want to do that you think you’re too old to do? Take out a piece of paper right now and jot down a couple ideas. Then DO something.

If you need a way to get started, and some support, you can get it with me at the Savvy Sizzle Master Class. Take a look at what I have for you…and sign up today!

You can find me here: VictoriousWoman.com, on FB @VictoriousWomanProject, or on Twitter@AnnmarieKelly

# Victorious Woman Project, #Victorious Woman, #WomensEmpowerment,  #VictoryChicks, #AnnmarieKelly, #FiveYearMarriage

RadioWrapUp.5.5.17: Revivement

Don’t call it retirement; call it revivement!
Gloria Dunn-Violin visited the Friday Happy Hour to talk with Annmarie Kelly about her second book, Revivement: Having a Life After Making a Living. After years of corporate life working with organizational behavior and development and 10 years as an award-winning public relations professional Gloria Dunn-Violin is relishing her third career speaking, writing, and giving workshops and webinars on how to have a life after retirement.
Through all of her careers, her goal has always been to help people have their best life possible. She also writes a monthly column for the North Bay Business Journal and has appeared on TV, radio and in the press nationwide. Learn more about Gloria at www.revivementbook.com and https://www.nowwhatrcoach.com.
For Gloria’s coupon offer, send her email at gloria@havingalifenow.com
Today I talked about Victorious Woman Month and mentioned a   2015 article about accomplished women who outside their rich spouses. Here’s the article: Celebs dating celebs. Let me know what you think

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Happy Victorious Woman Month!!

Annmarie Kelly, Professional Keynote SpeakerIt seemed like just one small thing that winter when I filed the paperwork. It was late April when it was approved. By year’s end, there it was listed in the McGraw-Hill Chase’s Calendar of Events:

International Victorious Woman Month

It was exciting in my little world! I celebrated by inviting friends, colleagues and neighbors to a potluck at my house. Who knew then what it could and would become.
Since then, not only do I celebrate it with my Victory Chicks Community, but so do others…all around the world! International Victorious Woman Month has prompted many local governments and companies to single out one woman or a group of women and publicly applaud their talents – in honor of Victorious Woman Month.
In addition, I’ve written articles and blog posts and, with the help of my friend Google, I’ve seen articles about Victorious Woman Month in Huffington Post, Blogher and other women’s sites, as well as on individual blogs. They talk about goals, self-care or some other good thing that Victory Chicks, like you, want in your life.
Whenever I see someone – besides me, and whom I don’t know – reference Victorious Woman Month, it’s really exciting. Sometimes it’s even in a language I can’t read – and that’s almost more exciting!
I’m sharing all that with you for two reasons:

  1. You don’t have to be a millionaire or one of Forbes most powerful women to make an impact. I’m not either one of those – not yet, at least ;-). Yet that didn’t stop me from doing the one small thing that created International Victorious Woman Month…or doing any of the other things that help me fulfill what I believe is my purpose. That is, helping Victory Chicks, like you, BE MORE – DO MORE –  HAVE MORE of a life you LOVE living.
  2. Remind you that you can do that – you can have more of a life you love living. You just have to take a step in that direction. It could be just one small thing, but it’s a step that puts you on a path. Then you take another step…and another. Those steps don’t have to be big ones. And EVERY step counts, no matter how small.

That’s what victory stretches are all about…small steps that take you out of your status quo, out of your comfort zone, and into that richer, fuller experience of the life you are born to live. And those are victories – even if they are the smallest, tiniest steps, they’re like muscle-building exercises. The muscle you build are your victory muscles
And, lord knows I understand this: some things stick and some don’t. The trick is that you just keep trying. Eventually, all the “sticky ones” add up and make a difference – for you, your family, your community… maybe even the world.
Over ten years ago, I did my first interview for my first book, Victorious Woman! Shaping Life’s Challenges into Personal Victories, with the amazing Jean Ott. Jean didn’t have an easy time of it in her earlier life. However, she was determined to be victorious in her life. She kept learning and growing. Eventually she broke through glass ceilings in corporate America. Then Jean started Women Unlimited, the women’s leadership company that has put thousands of young women on a path to success.
Jean had this piece of advice:

“It’s never too late to start a new journey;
it doesn’t have to be a big journey,
it can be a little one.
Just start it.
You can tell yourself ‘OK, I’m going to give this a shot.
If it doesn’t work, I’ll try something else’.
But start it.”

What is something you want to start but haven’t yet? What’s one small thing you can do to get it started?

Let me know at the Victorious Woman Project.  Share it, celebrate it, and ask for advice from me and other Victory Chicks

May this month be your MOST VICTORIOUS one of 2017!!

#New Beginnings

Today at Happy Hour

the-way-to-successWomen are “all in” when talking about getting a promotion or being a successful business owner. But talk about being a business or corporate leader and women shy away. What holds women back more, the glass ceiling or fear of leadership? Communications Expert Peggy Smith joins Annmarie Kelly for this Happy Hour look at women, leadership and communications.
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I'm Having a Baby!

Sleeping NewbornI hate paying for stuff and not using what I buy. Did you ever make an impulse buy and wonder what you were thinking when you got home?
Well I don’t want to do that with my healthcare. But since I’m being kicked off my current plan as of the end of this year (no, I can’t keep the plan I like and I can’t keep my doctor), I have to buy something that has stuff I don’t need. And my rates are going sky high with way higher deductibles – not for a Cadillac plan, but for an HM).
So I made a decision and I’m making the announcement now: I’m going to have a baby.
No, I’m not pregnant yet, and it could be tricky because I might be working with mostly powdered eggs, but if I have maternity benefits and pediatric vision care and fluoride treatments for my children under 6, I don’t want them to go to waste. And then, when I have a couple kids and I’m losing my mind, I can use all my mental health benefits. It’s a win-win, yes? So Joseph better step it up, starting this weekend!
Here’s the thing: Obamacare is the law and I’ll live within the law. But those people in Congress who voted for the law? Well, President Obama gave Congress a loophole that either fully exempts them and their staff from the ACA requirement that they go on the exchanges, or else puts them on the exchanges but with a special, very generous subsidy for the cost…at our expense. So, while it’s the law, unlike every other American who has to follow the law, the people who voted for this mess – and even the people who didn’t but are in Congress – are keeping their Cadillac plans. And you & I are footing the bill.
If you’re unhappy, call your congressperson and your local representative, and tell them you don’t like it. If you aren’t sure who’s who, go here:
House of Representatives: https://writerep.house.gov/

Happy Hour with Annmarie Kelly

JudyHobermanJudy Hoberman is coming to Happy Hour!

At tomorrow’s Happy Hour, entrepreneur and author Judy Hoberman will be joining me to talk about some of the ways we sabotage our own efforts in the way we communicate. She’s also going to be talking about starting your own business and how to avoid some of the common mistakes entrepreneurs make. And, during Chick Chat, I’m wondering what Judy thinks about something that’s been in the news lately – the war on boys.
Do you think there’s a war on boys??
You might know Judy if you watch Fox Business. She’s a frequent guest on the topic of gender and the workplace. Judy is the author of two books, Selling in a Skirt: The Secrets Women Don’t Know They Know about Sales…and What Men Should Know Too and Famous Isn’t Enough: Earning Your Fortune as an Entrepreneur and a sales training course. But Judy isn’t your typical sales trainer. Her Selling in a Skirt brand is about a philosophy and a way of life.
Why not join the conversation? If you are in Chester County PA, tune into WCHE 1520am. Online it’s WCHE1520.com and on your android, download the free app at tunein.com and do to WCHE. The call-in number is 610.701.WCHE. Let me know what you think!

Top Ten Ways Women Sabotage their Communication in the Workplace

ThoughtfulWomanI met Diane DiResta when we were both speaking at a conference. I liked her right away. She’s a smart and savvy and an excellent communicator. I love what she says in this article, so I’m sharing an outline of it here. How many of them do you recognize as part of your communication style? Read Diane’s whole article with suggestions for strengthening what you say. Making even a small change can give you big results.

Top Ten Ways Women Sabotage their Communication in the Workplace: By Diane DiResta

Glass ceiling or partners in sabotage? While the glass ceiling exists, very often women undermine their success by how they communicate in the workplace. We’ve learned to dress for success but have we learned the language of success? When Catalyst, a non-profit organization dealing with women’s issues asked “What holds women back from top management?” fifty-two percent said “Male stereotyping and preconceptions of women.” When they asked “How can women succeed?” sixty-one percent said “Developing a style with which male managers are comfortable.” It seems communication style is vitally important. Here are ten ways women weaken their image and what can be done about it.

1. Too much head nodding
2. Uptalk
3. Weak Language Tag lines
4. Allowing interruptions
5. Not speaking up (Waiting to be called on)
6. Dressing too sexy
7. Too soft spoken
8. Allowing others to take credit for ideas
9. Weak Body posture
10. Avoiding public speaking

You can find this and some of Diane’s other great “top ten” articles at Diane DiResta
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Ten Communication Secrets of Great Leaders

TopTenForbes.com posted this article by Mike Myatt a while ago. Here are his “top ten secrets” with my quickie summaries:

1. Speak not with a forked tongue:

Act like someone who deserves to be trusted

2. Get personal:

Let people know who you are (see also my article on building rapport)

3. Get specific:

Make your words clear and concise. Eliminate the chance for ambiguity. As one of my teachers used to say, “forget the peas and potatoes, just give me the meat.”

4. Focus on the leave-behinds not the take-aways:

Think about what the other person needs and wants and not just your agenda.

5. Have an open mind:

It’s OK if people disagree and challenge you. Learn how to have a healthy debate. It’s the way you get to stretch yourself.

6. Shut-up and listen:

this is the one that reminds us we have two ears and one mouth for a reason.

7. Replace ego with empathy:

Listen to needs and disagreements with your heart. If you understand where the other person is coming from, you

8. Read between the lines:

Understand what isn’t said AND what isn’t said. We miss a lot that’s implied or presumed.

9. When you speak, know what you’re talking about:

No fudging about what you know and how much of it you know. You can’t BS with your expertise and get away with it forever.

10. Speak to groups as individuals:

“Knowing how to work a room and establish credibility, trust, and rapport are keys to successful interactions.”
Read the whole article at Forbes.com: Ten Communication Secrets of Great Leaders
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Last Chance to see Kelly speak at Great Dames on April 22

Annmarie Kelly Speaks At Great Dames Event“Savvy Sizzle: Designing the Life of Your Dreams”

Is your life SAVVY or sappy?
Does your life SIZZLE with Satisfaction or feel like it’s wilting away, day by day?
Author and Victory Coach Annmarie Kelly will show you:

  • The four MUST-KNOW lifestyles that either support or sabotage your success.
  • Six MUST-HAVE victory skills
  • The power your values have to make your life either savvy or sappy
  • How to take your first POWER STEPS toward your next victory

at “The Great Dames Delaware Series” on April 22, 2013.
Event Flier | Event Registration
$35 or $60 for the pair of remaining events
5:30 to 7:00pm
Pizza By Elizabeths
Location: 3801 Kennett, Pike, Greenville
Register Today!