The Five-Year Marriage®: Taking Responsibility For Yourself

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Young Engaged Couples Find Valuable Marriage Advice In The Five-Year Marriage® 

Are you looking for marriage advice before you make one of the biggest commitments of your life? Do you find yourself wondering if marriage can really last forever? Consider reading The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmI’m Annmarie Kelly and I too was unsure about the “forever” part of traditional marriage. The solution that my spouse and I developed is The Five-Year Marriage®. Engaged couples can read The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm and learn about how they can choose to take their married life five years at a time. 

The Five-Year Marriage® Requires Effort And Commitment From Both Partners 

The Five-Year Marriage® is not a type of agreement for those who aren’t prepared to work together as a couple and to prioritize their union. Working to make sure your union works also means working on yourself. One of the qualities that are important for any potential five-year marriage partner to have is personal responsibility. 

When looking for a potential five-year partner, ask yourself – do they take responsibility for what’s happened in their life? Or, do they instead blame outward forces when things don’t go their way? Sure, everyone has bad days now and then. Occasionally, things happen that are out of your control. However, if someone consistently fails to take responsibility for the things happening in their life and makes no effort to plan better for the future, that’s a problem. This is a pattern they will bring into any union they have. 

How can you recognize personal responsibility in not only your partner but yourself as well? How can a lack of personal responsibility affect your marriage? Couples will learn about these factors and more when they read The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to singles, engaged, and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage® can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage® or contact me today

The Five-Year Marriage®: Is Your Partner Dependable?

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Looking For Marriage Advice Before The Big Day? 

The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm offers young engaged couples advice on marriage that differs greatly from the ideas of traditional marriage. When you read The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigmyou’ll find how you and your partner could choose to take your marriage just five years at a time. I’m Annmarie Kelly and I, like many young women and engage couples today, was looking for a different approach to marriage when my spouse originally proposed to me. In The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm, I tell couples about the plan for marriage that has worked for my spouse and me for the past 30+ years. 

Is Your Partner Dependable? 

One thing you should ask yourself when seeking out a potential five-year partner is – are they dependable? Dependability, on both a physical and emotional level, is a key factor in who could make for a good five-year partner.  

On a physical level, young couples should be able to rely on one another for financial stability, for staying on top of household chores, for picking up groceries, etc. Both partners should be prepared to do the work that is necessary to maintain everyday life. On an emotional level, dependability is about being there for your partner. Couples should also have a sense of security about how their other half feels and thinks about them. If your partner leaves you questioning their feelings and level of commitment, then a serious commitment such as The Five-Year Marriage® likely isn’t going to work. 

What are some signs that your partner isn’t dependable? How can you know if you, yourself, offer the dependability your partner needs? Couples can read about this and more in The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to singles, engaged, and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage® can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage® or contact me today

Pre-Marital Tips for Covid Couples

Covid weddings. Scaled-down, outdoors, streaming. They’re a sign of the times. That’s why the recent New York Times headline “Their Focus Was on the Marriage, Not the Wedding” got my attention. The article detailed the story of a Texas couple, Carmen and Aaron, who met on Bumble, fell in love, moved in together, and then decided to get married. And, like so many pandemic couples, instead of putting off the wedding, they decided to go for an outdoor ceremony, with most loved ones attending via zoom.

Like most couples, at first they were immersed in the planning. Then, just a few weeks before the wedding, a crazy Texas storm threw their state into an odd deep freeze and thousands – including Carmen and Aaron – lost electricity. As a result, they had no water or power and, in the unexpected cold, a pipe burst and covered 60% of their home in water.

Overnight, their life became a big mess, but it turns out, a blessing in disguise. The bride later told the Times, “My focus became less on the outward appearance of a wedding and more on beginning our marriage.” The groom agreed and said, “That is what matters the most.” Carmen is wise, Aaron is correct.

Covid’s Gift to Newlyweds

Covdi restrictions created huge changes everywhere, and wedding venues are no exception. However, not all of them are bad or disappointments.

In “normal” times, most brides and grooms spend a couple of years and thousands of dollars planning the one-day event that someone said they would remember forever. That’s a ton of pressure. As a result, when the wedding becomes the focus, the couple spends very little time, if any, planning the marriage they say they want to last “til death do they part”. Makes no sense, right?

Yes, they talk about where they’ll live, or, if they are already living together, will live next. And maybe they gush about being soulmates and talk about their love for each other and have some big dreams. It’s not enough.

When the crap hits the fan, the couple doesn’t know what to do about it. They argue, resentment results, problems aren’t solved, and then they get into a “rinse and repeat” pattern. The magic of make-up sex lasts just so long…and, little by little, loves dies.

In pandemic times, with couples having fewer wedding distractions, they have more bandwidth to talk about life after they say “I Do”. However, like being alone in a desert, many wonder, “what should we be talking about now?”

There are 10 Questions that Matter for the Long Term Success of your Relationship

No need to wonder what to be talking about now…just download my Top Ten Questions That Matter Now and start the conversation.

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What To Expect

As you and your sweetie work through these, your answers will give you a better picture of who you’re marrying and what your life together will look like – in real life, not wedding fantasies. Also, they will likely lead to other rich discussions. Choose that opportunity to get better together.

Actually, just the exercise of talking about your future will give you practice in communicating with each other. You’ll get to see what it’s like to be on the same page of one issue, and also what not being on the same page is like. That alone is worth the time and energy it’ll take to work through these – and what you learn will be a million times better, and longer lasting, than what you’ll get from a good DJ, great-tasting wedding cake, and purple napkins at a big wedding.

For more questions and tips about marriage including how to shift the marriage paradigm in your favor, you’ll find them in my book, available in paperback and Kinlde on Amazon, The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm. 

The Five-Year Marriage®: Couples And Communication

The Five-Year Marriage® Helps Young Couples And Singles Looking For Commitment

When young couples are in love and want to commit to one another, they may feel as though traditional marriage is their only path. I’m Annmarie Kelly, and I’m here to offer young engaged couples, or soon-to-be engaged couples, marriage advice that can change their expectations of what marriage is and could be with my book The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm. The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm allows couples to explore an alternative to “forever” marriage that encourages communication, consideration, and dedication to one another.

Marriage Advice: Learning To Communicate

One of the most important things that couples can bring to a marriage is the ability to communicate with one another. For The Five-Year Marriage®, communication is essential. After all, every five years both partners will be asked to re-visit their expectations and to communicate with one another clearly what they want from the next five years.

Communication Is A Two-Way Street

Couples, it’s important to remember that communication goes both ways. It’s not enough for one partner to communicate their side of things. Both partners must have an ongoing dialogue with one another. Of course, communication may come more naturally to one partner than to the other. Sometimes one or the other of you may need time to gather their thoughts or time to figure out how to express themself verbally. What’s important is that both parts of a couple make the effort to communicate and leave room for each other to communicate. Practice having an ongoing dialogue with one another. You’ll find that regular open communication prepares you as a couple for your Five-Year Marriage®.

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to singles, engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage® can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage® or contact me today.

What Are Good Qualities For A Five-Year Partner?

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Looking For The Right Partner For The Five-Year Marriage® 

Although some of the expectations and practices around marriage have changed over the years, couples who are together in the long term are still largely expected to formalize their relationship through marriage. Some engaged couples find, however, that the “forever” style commitment of traditional commitment isn’t for them. An alternative can be found in The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmI’m Annmarie Kelly, and I welcome engaged couples to consider the benefits of The Five-Year Marriage® 

Finding The Right Partner Is The Key To A Solid Relationship 

No matter your reasons for getting married – whether for love, finances, or children – the relationship is made much easier with both partners are compatible with one another. When you are interested in a Five-Year Marriage® style of commitment, you also have to make sure that your partner is suited to The Five-Year Marriage® plan.  

What Qualities Make For A Good Five-Year Partner? 

In The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm, I detail qualities that can make someone a potential candidate for a Five-Year Marriage®. There are, of course, many metrics by which you might measure how well-suited a partner is for you. However, over the years I have identified seven “must haves” for partners who want toThe Five-Year Marriage®. I call thee these“must haves” The Solid Seven. They offer you fast feedback on potential partners, even early on in your relationship. To learn more about The Solid Seven, read The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Singles, Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact me today

The Five-Year Marriage®: Finding The Right Partner

The Five-Year Marriage® Gives Engaged Couples Advice On How To Plan For Marriage 

If you’re making a long-term commitment to your partner, shouldn’t planning the marriage be more important than planning the wedding day? I’m Annmarie Kelly, and I encourage all couples considering marriage to read The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmThe Five-Year Marriage helps couples learn how to plan for marriage together.  

How Can You Plan For Marriage? 

Although traditional marriage requires a commitment of “til death do us part,” we all know that that promise is no guarantee of success in marriage. After all, about half of marriages in the US end in divorce. The Five-Year Marriage isn’t guaranteed to make your marriage a sure thing, either. In fact, the very premise depends on couples being willing to take the chance that after five years their commitment to one another might be over. What The Five-Year Marriage® can do for you is encourage couples to prioritize their commitment and really think ahead in their marriage. 

It Starts With Finding The Right Partner 

Any successful partnership depends first on finding the right partner. When you want to walk the path of The Five-Year Marriage, you have to ask yourself – what kind of person would want a Five-Year Marriage? Or, rather, what kind of person wouldn’t want a Five-Year Marriage? By starting with that question, couples will be able to figure out if they are a good match for each other in a Five-Year Marriage. 

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact me today

The Five-Year Marriage®: Planning Beyond The Wedding Day

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Looking For Relationship Advice Before Marriage? 

It is undeniable that the expectation to marry influences many couples to go through with a life-long commitment without putting real thought and consideration into what lies beyond the wedding day. The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm encourages couples to think beyond wedding planning to marriage planning. My name is Annmarie Kelly, and in The Five-Year Marriage I offer young couples the best relationship advice I know. 

Wedding Planning Vs. Marriage Planning 

Intense and extremely thought-out wedding planning is an aspect of marriage culture that couples are taught to expect. Whether you hire a professional or try to take on the wedding planning yourself, there are experts, advice, and self-help tips aplenty to be found for how to successfully plan a wedding. 

Why do we put so much effort into planning an event that will only last a day? Why don’t we put that same effort, if not more, into planning for the marriage that is meant to last “’til death do us part”? Partially, perhaps, it is because there are no “marriage planners” in the way that there are “wedding planners”. 

The Five-Year Marriage® Can Help You Become Your Marriage Planner 

The Five-Year Marriage encourages couples to think outside of the box. This plan advises couples to consider more than one day – it asks them to seriously consider what they expect the next five years together to look like, and if both parties are ready to do the work to hold true to their agreed-upon marriage plan. 

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact me today

The Five-Year Marriage: Making Your Marriage A Priority

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The Five-Year Marriage Helps Engaged Couples Learn To Prioritize Their Marriage 

Many people today have mixed opinions about marriage. Many are aware of the high divorce rates in our country and rightfully worry that marriages won’t last. At the same time, many of those people also want to get married. Couples who are considering marriage have to ask themselves – is marriage worth it? How can we make our marriage different? How can our marriage last? I’m Annemarie Kelly, and in my book The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage ParadigmI offer an alternative take on marriage. The Five-Year Marriage is the plan my husband and I have followed for our 30+ years together, and it can work for you too. 

What Is A Five-Year Marriage? 

In its simplest terms, a five-year marriage is just what it says on the tin. It’s marriage wherein you and your partner commit not ‘til death do you part, but just for a length of five years. Below that surface level, though, many couples find that the five-year marriage offers them an amount of control and freedom in their marriage that makes for a longer-lasting, more committed relationship than they might have accomplished through traditional marriage.  

Learn To Make Your Marriage A Priority 

The five-year marriage commitment forces married couples to rely on working together through their marriage rather than assuming it will work out on its own. Together, you and your partner draft a contract for your five-year marriage. You decide what your goals are, how you will accomplish those goals, and what expectations you both have for your five-year marriage. You have to commit to working together and prioritizing your marriage in your daily lives. Learn more about how this arrangement could work for you when you read The Five-Year Marriage

The Five-Year Marriage Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact me today

“Old School” Marriage Vs. The Five-Year Marriage®

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Engaged Couples Find Unique Advice For Marriage Plans In The Five-Year Marriage® 

There comes a time in many long-term relationships when a couple asks themselves – is marriage for us? Couples who find themselves questioning the idea of marriage can gain a fresh new perspective on what marriage could be through The Five-Year Marriage: Shifting the Marriage Paradigm. I’m Annemarie Kelly, and The Five-Year Marriage is the approach to marriage my husband and I have taken together for the past 30+ years. Each marriage lasts for only 5 years and begins with a contract – an agreement about our personal and joint goals, and how we can accomplish those goals over the course of our marriage. If you and your partner are committed to making your marriage succeed through working together rather than just assuming things will work out, The Five Year Marriage® could be for you. 

Old School Marriage For Old School Reasons 

The purpose of marriage and people’s reasons for marrying have, in some ways, changed throughout history. In some ways, expectations remain the same. For women of the past, marriage was often a ‘must.’ It’s easy to forget that it’s only a relatively recent development that women are able to achieve financial stability on their own. Not only were women not allowed to hold jobs for a long time, but women also had trouble opening bank accounts or lines of credit in their own names. For many women, marriage was a way of survival. Additionally, marriage was how men could ensure a legitimate continuation of their lineage.  

Of course, many people today still choose to get married for these very reasons – financial security and for the sake of having children. The main difference is that it is widely acknowledged these days that marriage is not the only socially acceptable path to those things. Additionally, people can get married for other reasons – including just a desire to be committed to your partner.  

Ask yourself: If the reasons people get married, and the necessity of marriage in relation to one’s survival, can change so much over time – why can’t the way we get married change as well? 

I’m here to tell you that it can. Modern marriage shouldn’t be shackled by old school expectations. Your marriage should suit you and your partner as a couple. The Five Year Marriage® allows you to tailor your marriage to fit your relationship, goals, and expectations – and it allows you to decide to do that again (or not) regularly. Engaged and married couples alike can benefit from the perspective offered in The Five-Year Marriage. Get your copy today and learn if The Five-Year Marriage® is for you! 

The Five-Year Marriage® Offers The Best Advice For Engaged And Married Couples 

I’m Annmarie Kelly. Over my career as an author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist, I’ve had the pleasure of being able to help and empower many women. Now, I’m offering much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage® can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage® or contact me today

The Five-Year Marriage: Marriage Advice For New Couples

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How Can You Know If Marriage Is Really For You? 

If you’ve ever wondered if marriage is “for you,” you’re not alone. Making a marriage work is no easy task and, unfortunately, it’s something that many couples fail to accomplish. What if there were a more adaptive way to approach marriage? What if being married didn’t mean making the commitment all at once to be together ‘til death do you part? Annmarie Kelly’s The Five-Year Marriage plan could be for you! New couples, – you can learn about how The Five-Year Marriage could be the best marriage advice you’ve ever received. 

Marriage Advice That Shifts The Marriage Paradigm 

If traditional marriage makes you feel uneasy or if you worry that marriage could lead to feeling “stuck forever,” The Five-Year Marriage could be just what you need. Women especially may be worried about feeling stuck in a marriage that takes a turn for the worse. Historically, women have had very little choice in how and if they marry and if they could leave that marriage. 

The Five-Year Marriage Promotes Equal Partnership 

By following the plan of The Five-Year Marriage, married couples allow themselves to reconsider and renegotiate the terms of their marriage every five years. This renegotiation acknowledges the changes that have happened in the previous five years. By acknowledging and making room for growth in this way, married couples can enjoy an equal partnership with true intimacy. Annmarie Kelly herself has used this method to build a long-lasting relationship with her husband of 30+ years. They’ve taken the last 3 decades on together just five years at a time – and now so can you! 

Annmarie Kelly’s The Five-Year Marriage Offers The Best Marriage Advice 

Annmarie Kelly is a successful author, empowerment speaker, radio host, and victory strategist. She has made a career out of empowering and helping out women. Now, she offers much-needed advice to engaged and married couples who are looking for an alternative to traditional marriage. If you want to learn more about how The Five-Year Marriage can offer you the advice you and your partner have been looking for, click through to read more about The Five-Year Marriage or contact Annmarie Kelly